Hello Emma,
Profile synthesis
On the terrain of connection with others, what follows describes relational dynamics — ways of relating that can evolve, not verdicts. Your profile is in the average range. You have resources on some dimensions and room for progress on others, which is the most common and balanced profile. The challenge, at this stage, is not to fix "weaknesses" but to direct your energy where it will have the most effect. Your strengths can serve as support to work on the dimensions that are more in the background: progress often comes faster by building on what already works. Deliberate practice — targeting a precise aspect, exercising it, adjusting based on feedback — is more effective here than a general, diffuse desire to improve.
Overall result
Emerging dynamicYour responses describe some marked reactions in the face of tension, without strong intensity. The comparative report will locate your pattern relative to your partner's.
Your profile at a glance
Detailed analysis
This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.
Your responses describe a low tendency to initiate contact or re-open discussions after tension. You seem comfortable letting things settle. The comparative report will show how this interacts with your partner's pattern.
Your answers place pursuit intensity below average in your current profile. This identifies a concrete area for development: it is not a deficiency but room for progress. Skills of this kind are built through regular practice rather than through sudden changes. Starting with simple, observable exercises, then gradually increasing the difficulty, generally yields better results than overly ambitious goals from the start. The secret lies less in momentary motivation than in regularity: a few minutes repeated often are worth more than a single big isolated effort. It also helps to make progress visible — noting what you do, measuring from time to time — because seeing the path already covered keeps the momentum going. Finally, treat setbacks as information, not failures: they are part of any learning and simply point to where to adjust.
Recommendations
- ✓You could notice, the next time a tension stays unresolved, how you experience that lack of closure — neither good nor bad, just observing.
- ✓You could ask your partner how they experience your way of letting things settle.
This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.
You have some tendency to create distance in conflicts, but not systematically. The comparative report clarifies how this interacts with your partner's approach.
Your answers place withdrawal intensity in the average range of your profile. This indicates present foundations that can be strengthened by regular work. At this level, deliberate practice — choosing a precise aspect, working on it, adjusting — is often more effective than a global, undifferentiated improvement. The middle tier is also the one where it is easiest to plateau, because the basics are enough to "get by" without pushing you to progress: stepping slightly out of your comfort zone is what restarts the curve. Set yourself a goal slightly above your current level, enough to stimulate without discouraging, and look for concrete feedback to know whether you are moving forward. It is often from this level that progress becomes the most rewarding, because it shows quickly.
Recommendations
- ✓You could observe the specific situations where the need to create distance becomes stronger.
- ✓You could explain to your partner what you need when you step back, so it isn't experienced as rejection.
This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.
Your responses describe low activation by situations that commonly trigger this cycle. You seem to maintain relatively stable functioning even under pressure.
On trigger sensitivity, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓You could still note, over several weeks, the rare situations that activate your usual pattern.
- ✓You could share with your partner what, in your view, keeps you relatively stable under pressure.
This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.
You are aware of some recurring patterns, but they don't yet feel fully visible. The comparative report can help identify them more precisely.
On awareness of the repetitive cycle, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓You could name together the steps of your cycle as each of you perceives them.
- ✓You could identify the precise moment your cycle usually tips over — that's often where change becomes possible.
This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.
This is common: awareness often comes before the desire to act. The report identifies what may be slowing progress in this area.
On readiness for change, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓You could observe, without judging yourself, the moments when this relationship dynamic costs you something — a tension, an unspoken thing, a relational fatigue — to gradually build awareness.
- ✓You could read your report with open curiosity rather than pressure to change: understanding before acting is a step in its own right.
Your action plan
Right now
- →Pursuit intensity — You could notice, the next time a tension stays unresolved, how you experience that lack of closure — neither good nor bad, just observing.
- →Pursuit intensity — You could ask your partner how they experience your way of letting things settle.
- →Trigger sensitivity — You could still note, over several weeks, the rare situations that activate your usual pattern.
- →Trigger sensitivity — You could share with your partner what, in your view, keeps you relatively stable under pressure.
- →Readiness for change — You could observe, without judging yourself, the moments when this relationship dynamic costs you something — a tension, an unspoken thing, a relational fatigue — to gradually build awareness.
- →Readiness for change — You could read your report with open curiosity rather than pressure to change: understanding before acting is a step in its own right.
- →Withdrawal intensity — You could observe the specific situations where the need to create distance becomes stronger.
- →Withdrawal intensity — You could explain to your partner what you need when you step back, so it isn't experienced as rejection.
- →Awareness of the repetitive cycle — You could name together the steps of your cycle as each of you perceives them.
- →Awareness of the repetitive cycle — You could identify the precise moment your cycle usually tips over — that's often where change becomes possible.
In the coming weeks
- →Ask for outside feedback (mentor, training, community) to adjust the practice after a few weeks.
In the long run
- →Retake this test in 3 to 6 months to measure your progress. Lasting change is rarely measured over a few weeks.
- →Choose one dimension to develop as a priority rather than all at once: focused effort generally yields better results.
- →Find an adapted practice environment (training, mentor, community, coach): isolated progress is possible but often slower.
- →Document your progression (brief journal, regular check-ins): what is measured gets worked on, and the written trace helps see progress invisible day-to-day.
Resources & exercise
7-day observation journal
Each day, spot one situation where “Withdrawal intensity” showed up. Note the automatic thought, the emotion (0–100) and what you did. Then write one more balanced, alternative reading. After 7 days, re-read your notes: the recurring patterns become visible — the first step to change them.
Support resources
If you are struggling, you are not alone. United States: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7). Elsewhere: find your local line at findahelpline.com. This report supports self-knowledge and does not replace a consultation with a psychologist or doctor.
Find a professional
To go further, working with a professional is valuable. A few trusted directories to find a practitioner near you:
Tip: prioritise licensed/registered professionals and evidence-based therapies (e.g. CBT).
How this report is produced
This report is generated by artificial intelligence from your answers only, structured around recognised clinical models (attachment theory, CBT, Young’s schemas…) cited within the report. No health professional is involved in writing it. It is a self-knowledge tool, not a diagnosis: the analyses are avenues for understanding to weigh against your own experience, and do not replace the assessment of a health professional.
Your answers in detail
1. When a disagreement arises, I tend to want to talk about it right away.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
You answered "Somewhat disagree". Can you tell me more about when this comes up for you?
It mainly shows up in situations that matter to me, when I feel under pressure or emotionally involved.
2. When I sense distance from my partner, I'm the first to reach out.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
And how long have you noticed this?
It has been more present over the past few months, though I recognise it from before too.
3. I feel the need to resolve tensions before I can move on.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
4. I can leave a disagreement unresolved without it weighing on me.
Answer : Somewhat agree
5. I try to maintain connection even when my partner seems to want to step back.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
6. I find it hard to accept my partner's silence when something is unresolved.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
7. …
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