Hello Emma,
Profile synthesis
On the terrain of connection with others, what follows describes relational dynamics — ways of relating that can evolve, not verdicts. Your answers reveal some moderate signals. Without dramatizing, these elements can be observed and discussed with a trusted person. A moderate situation is not a trivial one: it describes very real difficulties, simply not yet overwhelming. It is often at this stage that it is easiest to act, before things settle in for good. Briefly noting the moments when the situation weighs more — when, with whom, in what context — helps you see clearly and makes the conversation easier, whether with a loved one or a professional.
Overall result
Partial foundations — some areas deserve attentionYour overall responses suggest a relationship with real strengths and areas to strengthen. Some dimensions are well established, others have eroded. This profile is common in lasting relationships: erosion is gradual and is best addressed early.
Your profile at a glance
Detailed analysis
This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.
Your responses suggest that the active markers of relational vitality — curiosity about your partner, positive rituals, shared projects, spontaneous warmth — are currently little present. This is not a judgment about the relationship as a whole: these markers can fade gradually without being noticed. Gottman calls them the 'Love Map' and connection rituals — they can be cultivated and restored.
Your answers for positive predictors do not indicate that this dimension is a central point of the situation you currently describe. This may mean that the situation does not particularly engage this facet, or that it has remained stable on this point. This is not a detail, however: knowing where the situation does not weigh helps you better pinpoint where it does, and therefore focus your attention in the right place. This observation is useful to keep as a benchmark: if the situation evolves, comparing it to future answers will help measure its meaning and direction. A dimension that is stable today may stay that way, or shift if the context changes — hence the value of not losing sight of it.
Recommendations
- ✓You could start by identifying a single positive ritual you appreciate in your relationship and giving it a regular place.
- ✓You could ask your partner an open question about something current in their life — not to solve a problem, but out of genuine curiosity.
- ✓You could share your report with your partner to open a conversation about what you would like to cultivate together.
- ✓You could consider a session with a couple therapist if you would like support in this restoration.
This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.
Your responses suggest a rather uneven balance: positive interactions are present but insufficient to compensate for tensions and frustration. The negative can weigh on how the relationship is perceived overall even when everything is not dark. Identifying where positive interactions erode allows for targeted action.
Your answers for positive/negative balance reveal moderate signals. Without dramatizing, these elements deserve to be observed over time: a moderate dimension that settles in can become more pervasive through accumulation. The moderate level, in a situation, is often the moment when one hesitates — "am I overreacting? am I imagining things?": this doubt is normal, and it takes nothing away from the legitimacy of what you feel. If you wish, taking brief notes about the moments when this dimension is more present can help understand the triggers and spot any patterns. This tracking can also be useful if you decide to talk to a professional or someone you trust: concrete, dated elements are easier to share than a diffuse impression.
Recommendations
- ✓You could identify one or two recurring sources of tension and decide together on a different way to respond to them.
- ✓You could deliberately increase small positive moments in daily life (a shared coffee, an affectionate message, a moment without screens).
- ✓You could talk with your partner about whether they perceive the imbalance in the same way — perceptions often differ.
- ✓You could revisit this dimension in a few weeks after putting concrete changes in place.
This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.
Your responses suggest that mutual admiration and respect have significantly diminished in your relationship. No longer admiring your partner, no longer feeling recognised and respected, is a serious signal according to Gottman — contempt (the inverse dimension) is the strongest predictor of separation. This is not irreversible, but it deserves serious attention.
On admiration and respect, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓You could do the exercise of noting three concrete qualities you admired in your partner at the beginning of your relationship — this helps reopen access to admiration.
- ✓You could talk with your partner starting from what you feel (not feeling valued) rather than what they are doing wrong.
- ✓You could consult a couple therapist: when admiration has significantly diminished, structured support helps rebuild mutual respect.
- ✓You could reflect honestly on what caused this regression — events, routine, unrepaired wounds — to understand where to act.
This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.
Your responses suggest partial repair capacity: some conflicts resolve, others leave a lasting mark. You sometimes find the way back, but lingering resentments or circular disputes remain a problem. This profile is common — it indicates that repair tools exist but are not used systematically.
On conflict repair, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓You could identify what helps you most to return to connection after a conflict (humour, time apart, an affectionate gesture) and discuss it with your partner.
- ✓You could introduce a simple rule: after an argument, let 20 minutes pass before resuming the conversation.
- ✓You could work on how you phrase your complaints — starting with 'I feel' rather than 'you always' makes repair more accessible.
- ✓You could learn about conflict management techniques for couples — a few readings or sessions can change the dynamic.
This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.
These questions measure your readiness to evolve in the way you function in your relationship. Your score indicates that you are not yet fully convinced of the necessity or possibility of evolving — which is a valid stage. Awareness precedes decision. Your report helps you clarify what is at stake.
On readiness to change, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓You could re-read your report with open curiosity rather than pressure to change — understanding before acting is a stage in its own right.
- ✓You could observe, without judgment, what costs you most in your relationship and what you would like to see differently.
Your action plan
Right now
- →If you are in immediate danger, contact your local emergency services.
- →Positive/Negative Balance — You could identify one or two recurring sources of tension and decide together on a different way to respond to them.
- →Positive/Negative Balance — You could deliberately increase small positive moments in daily life (a shared coffee, an affectionate message, a moment without screens).
- →Conflict Repair — You could identify what helps you most to return to connection after a conflict (humour, time apart, an affectionate gesture) and discuss it with your partner.
- →Conflict Repair — You could introduce a simple rule: after an argument, let 20 minutes pass before resuming the conversation.
In the coming weeks
- →Positive/Negative Balance — You could talk with your partner about whether they perceive the imbalance in the same way — perceptions often differ.
- →Conflict Repair — You could work on how you phrase your complaints — starting with 'I feel' rather than 'you always' makes repair more accessible.
In the long run
- →Retake this questionnaire in 3 to 6 months to observe the evolution of the situation. If scores increase, it is a signal to discuss with a professional.
- →Identify a resource person (trusted loved one, professional, helpline) with whom to talk about this situation safely, even if you are not ready to say everything.
- →Set up a minimum safety plan (safe place, emergency contacts, important documents accessible) if the situation requires — it is preparation, not a decision.
Resources & exercise
7-day observation journal
Each day, spot one situation where “Positive/Negative Balance” showed up. Note the automatic thought, the emotion (0–100) and what you did. Then write one more balanced, alternative reading. After 7 days, re-read your notes: the recurring patterns become visible — the first step to change them.
Support resources
If you are struggling, you are not alone. United States: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7). Elsewhere: find your local line at findahelpline.com. This report supports self-knowledge and does not replace a consultation with a psychologist or doctor.
Find a professional
To go further, working with a professional is valuable. A few trusted directories to find a practitioner near you:
Tip: prioritise licensed/registered professionals and evidence-based therapies (e.g. CBT).
How this report is produced
This report is generated by artificial intelligence from your answers only, structured around recognised clinical models (attachment theory, CBT, Young’s schemas…) cited within the report. No health professional is involved in writing it. It is a self-knowledge tool, not a diagnosis: the analyses are avenues for understanding to weigh against your own experience, and do not replace the assessment of a health professional.
Your answers in detail
1. I still actively take an interest in what my partner thinks, feels, and experiences.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
You answered "Somewhat disagree". Can you tell me more about when this comes up for you?
It mainly shows up in situations that matter to me, when I feel under pressure or emotionally involved.
2. I know my partner's current tastes, dreams, and concerns well.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
And how long have you noticed this?
It has been more present over the past few months, though I recognise it from before too.
3. When my partner experiences something positive, I genuinely share in it.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
4. We maintain regular positive rituals together (dinners, shared habits, quality time).
Answer : Somewhat disagree
5. I often think of my partner with tenderness when we are apart.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
6. I take care to acknowledge important events in my partner's life.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
7. …
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