Your comparative report
Pursuer or withdrawer? — two profiles, one test, taken independently
Emma & Noah
WHAT YOUR TWO ANSWERS REVEAL
What you couldn't have known about each other
Emma 88% · Noah 67% — Withdrawal intensity
On your withdrawal intensity, Emma scores 88%, Noah scores 67%. This 21-point gap doesn't show up in an ordinary conversation — it's exactly the kind of mismatch that, left unspoken, feeds recurring tension neither of you can quite explain.
What this changes, concretely
Because Emma perceives your withdrawal intensity much more positively than Noah, one simple rule changes things: next time the topic comes up, each of you names your own felt score ("for me it's high" / "for me it's low") before discussing it. The gap becomes a topic — not an unspoken thing that keeps building up.
Overview
Overall convergence score
91%
Vos perceptions sont très proches
Dimension-by-dimension analysis
For each dimension of the test, here is how your answers compare — and what this gap (or closeness) may mean for the two of you.
Pursuit intensity — 3 pts
Emma 83% · Noah 80%
On your pursuit intensity, your answers converge clearly (a 3-point gap). This is a shared way of seeing things — a solid foundation to build on.
Withdrawal intensity — 21 pts
Emma 88% · Noah 67%
On your withdrawal intensity, your answers diverge clearly (21 points) — this is exactly the kind of mismatch that, left unspoken, can feed recurring misunderstandings. This isn't proof of incompatibility: it's an invitation to talk about it, each of you holding a perception that is equally valid.
Trigger sensitivity — 9 pts
Emma 63% · Noah 72%
On your trigger sensitivity, a nuance (9 points) separates your answers — subtle enough that it's unlikely to cause friction, but real. It's worth naming, if only to know each other better on this point.
Awareness of the repetitive cycle — 5 pts
Emma 78% · Noah 73%
On your awareness of the repetitive cycle, your answers converge clearly (a 5-point gap). This is a shared way of seeing things — a solid foundation to build on.
Your dynamic as a couple
Your dominant stance in the face of tension (withdrawal) meets your partner's (pursuit). Neither one is the right one — here is what this pairing typically produces in a relationship:
The pursuit style and the withdrawal style meet in the most documented cycle in this test: when tension rises, one seeks to talk about it right away, the other needs distance to regulate — and each move, without meaning to, intensifies the other's need. The more the first insists, the more the second withdraws; the more the second pulls away, the more the first insists. What this pair produces that is precious: two clearly differentiated styles have the raw material to learn to name themselves precisely, rather than guess. The recurring friction is that this cycle closes in on itself as long as it isn't named as a cycle — each person experiences their own reaction as a logical response to the other, without seeing the loop. What becomes possible when the cycle is recognised, as two different logics rather than a fault on either side: agreeing on a signal for the pause AND a set time to come back to it, so that neither insistence nor withdrawal has to carry the responsibility of moving things forward alone.
Readiness for change
This score is personal to each respondent — it is never averaged or directly compared, since one person's readiness for change says nothing about the other's.
Emma
75%
High readiness for change
Noah
56%
Emerging readiness
Talking about it together
This report isn't a conclusion — it's a starting point. Here are a few prompts to open the conversation, without pressure and without trying to "win":
- What do you think explains the 21-point gap on your withdrawal intensity?
- On your trigger sensitivity, what had you never said out loud before this report?
- Beyond the gaps above, what surprised you in the other person's answers?
This report compares two perceptions — neither is "the truth". There is simply yours and your partner's, and the gap between them is what's worth exploring together.
This report was generated automatically from your answers to an online questionnaire. It draws on recognized psychological models but does not constitute a medical or psychological diagnosis, nor couples therapy. For support, consult a mental health professional or a couples therapist.
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