Hello Emma,
Profile synthesis
Your profile is in the average range. You have resources on some dimensions and room for progress on others, which is the most common and balanced profile. The challenge, at this stage, is not to fix "weaknesses" but to direct your energy where it will have the most effect. Your strengths can serve as support to work on the dimensions that are more in the background: progress often comes faster by building on what already works. Deliberate practice — targeting a precise aspect, exercising it, adjusting based on feedback — is more effective here than a general, diffuse desire to improve.
Overall result
ModerateYour profile at a glance
Detailed analysis
This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.
You observe recurring but not systematic refusal behaviours. These may reflect a normal need for autonomy or a family dynamic worth adjusting.
Your answers place refusal of instructions and authority in the average range of your profile. This indicates present foundations that can be strengthened by regular work. At this level, deliberate practice — choosing a precise aspect, working on it, adjusting — is often more effective than a global, undifferentiated improvement. The middle tier is also the one where it is easiest to plateau, because the basics are enough to "get by" without pushing you to progress: stepping slightly out of your comfort zone is what restarts the curve. Set yourself a goal slightly above your current level, enough to stimulate without discouraging, and look for concrete feedback to know whether you are moving forward. It is often from this level that progress becomes the most rewarding, because it shows quickly.
Recommendations
- ✓Offering limited choices rather than direct instructions can reduce opposition.
- ✓Identifying whether refusals occur more with one adult or in a specific context can help target support.
This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.
You observe recurring anger episodes, sometimes intense. This merits attention without being necessarily worrying.
On anger outbursts and hostility, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Helping your child identify what they feel before the anger (frustration, injustice, tiredness) can prevent outbursts.
- ✓Staying calm during an outburst and reserving discussion for after tends to be more effective.
- ✓See a pediatrician if the outbursts intensify or affect your child's social life.
This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.
You observe a tendency to negotiate or challenge rules that can be tiring, even if it remains manageable.
On constant negotiation and challenging, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Differentiating between non-negotiable rules and areas where your child has some say helps them understand limits.
- ✓Avoid long debates on non-negotiable rules: explain once, hold the position.
This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.
You observe some frustration intolerance or difficulty with the unexpected that can create tensions. Worth monitoring.
On rigidity and frustration intolerance, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Cognitive flexibility games (games with changing rules, activities with unexpected twists) can help.
- ✓Using advance notice before transitions helps children with strong internal routines.
- ✓Distinguishing rigidity linked to fatigue from other instances helps adapt your response.
This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.
You are beginning to wonder how best to respond to your child's behaviours. This awareness is already an important first step.
Your answers place motivation to act below average in your current profile. This identifies a concrete area for development: it is not a deficiency but room for progress. Skills of this kind are built through regular practice rather than through sudden changes. Starting with simple, observable exercises, then gradually increasing the difficulty, generally yields better results than overly ambitious goals from the start. The secret lies less in momentary motivation than in regularity: a few minutes repeated often are worth more than a single big isolated effort. It also helps to make progress visible — noting what you do, measuring from time to time — because seeing the path already covered keeps the momentum going. Finally, treat setbacks as information, not failures: they are part of any learning and simply point to where to adjust.
Recommendations
- ✓Noting when and in what context opposition most often occurs is already a useful action.
- ✓Sharing your observations with the teacher or your child's doctor can provide additional insight.
Your action plan
Right now
- →Refusal of instructions and authority — Offering limited choices rather than direct instructions can reduce opposition.
- →Refusal of instructions and authority — Identifying whether refusals occur more with one adult or in a specific context can help target support.
- →Constant negotiation and challenging — Differentiating between non-negotiable rules and areas where your child has some say helps them understand limits.
- →Constant negotiation and challenging — Avoid long debates on non-negotiable rules: explain once, hold the position.
- →Motivation to act — Noting when and in what context opposition most often occurs is already a useful action.
- →Motivation to act — Sharing your observations with the teacher or your child's doctor can provide additional insight.
- →Anger outbursts and hostility — Helping your child identify what they feel before the anger (frustration, injustice, tiredness) can prevent outbursts.
- →Anger outbursts and hostility — Staying calm during an outburst and reserving discussion for after tends to be more effective.
- →Rigidity and frustration intolerance — Cognitive flexibility games (games with changing rules, activities with unexpected twists) can help.
- →Rigidity and frustration intolerance — Using advance notice before transitions helps children with strong internal routines.
In the coming weeks
- →Anger outbursts and hostility — See a pediatrician if the outbursts intensify or affect your child's social life.
- →Rigidity and frustration intolerance — Distinguishing rigidity linked to fatigue from other instances helps adapt your response.
In the long run
- →Retake this test in 3 to 6 months to measure your progress. Lasting change is rarely measured over a few weeks.
- →Choose one dimension to develop as a priority rather than all at once: focused effort generally yields better results.
- →Find an adapted practice environment (training, mentor, community, coach): isolated progress is possible but often slower.
- →Document your progression (brief journal, regular check-ins): what is measured gets worked on, and the written trace helps see progress invisible day-to-day.
Resources & exercise
7-day observation journal
Each day, spot one situation where “Anger outbursts and hostility” showed up. Note the automatic thought, the emotion (0–100) and what you did. Then write one more balanced, alternative reading. After 7 days, re-read your notes: the recurring patterns become visible — the first step to change them.
Support resources
If you are struggling, you are not alone. United States: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7). Elsewhere: find your local line at findahelpline.com. This report supports self-knowledge and does not replace a consultation with a psychologist or doctor.
Find a professional
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Tip: prioritise licensed/registered professionals and evidence-based therapies (e.g. CBT).
How this report is produced
This report is generated by artificial intelligence from your answers only, structured around recognised clinical models (attachment theory, CBT, Young’s schemas…) cited within the report. No health professional is involved in writing it. It is a self-knowledge tool, not a diagnosis: the analyses are avenues for understanding to weigh against your own experience, and do not replace the assessment of a health professional.
Your answers in detail
1. My child frequently refuses adult instructions, even when they are clear and reasonable.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
You answered "Somewhat disagree". Can you tell me more about when this comes up for you?
It mainly shows up in situations that matter to me, when I feel under pressure or emotionally involved.
2. My child regularly refuses to do what they are asked at home, regardless of who is asking.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
And how long have you noticed this?
It has been more present over the past few months, though I recognise it from before too.
3. My child opposes rules set at school or in other settings (grandparents' home, after-school activity).
Answer : Somewhat disagree
4. My child repeatedly refuses to follow basic household rules (mealtimes, bedtime, tidying up).
Answer : Somewhat disagree
5. My child often says 'no' or 'I don't want to' before even hearing the full instruction.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
6. My child deliberately ignores an adult's request, even after several reminders.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
7. …
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