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Invisible Family Loyalty Test: patterns and family secrets
63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 18 clinical frameworks·6 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
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This test looks at invisible family loyalties — at what circulates within a family without ever being said. It examines several aspects: the scripts that replay from one generation to the next, the sense of owing something to your own people, the place silence occupies, and the room you already have to choose differently. The report describes each of them.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book The Practical CBT Guide, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
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Invisible Family Loyalty Test: patterns and family secrets — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at invisible family loyalties: scripts replayed from one generation to the next, the sense of a debt owed, and the place silence occupies. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 18 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This interactive test covers guilt, boundaries, autonomy, identity, secrecy, speaking up, responsibility, support, plans, pleasure, money, failure, separation, conflict and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Guilt If, when you make a choice different from theirs, the guilt stays with you long afterward. If you make a decision that differs from theirs, without guilt. Boundaries If, after saying no to your family, the guilt is still there long after the conversation. If you set a limit with your family, without feeling guilty. Autonomy If you follow the path your family had laid out for you. If you make your own choices rather than letting family history decide for you. Identity If you hear yourself answering with your father's or your mother's exact words. If you can tell what comes from you and what comes from them. Secrecy If, as a child, you heard the adults in your family lower their voices when you came into the room. If you were asked to keep a secret for the family's sake. Speaking up If, as a child, a question you asked at the table was met with an icy silence, and you never asked it again. If certain family truths have never been said out loud. Responsibility If you carry the responsibility for your parents' happiness on your shoulders. If you love your family and are taking a different path from theirs. Support If you do favors for your family beyond what you can manage. If you love your family and space out visits when you need to. Plans If you pursue a career or a project that isn't really yours. If you have built a life that reflects who you are, different from theirs. Pleasure If your own happiness feels like a betrayal of your family members who are suffering. If you give yourself the right to happiness even if your parents never knew it. Money If you're dogged by the same money, health or relationship problems as your family. If you pay for things or do favors to repay what your parents did. Failure If succeeding where your parents failed feels like a duty to you. If you allow yourself to succeed even if your family didn't. Separation If, when you move far away from your family, you feel a wave of guilt. If you build your life according to your own values, not theirs. Conflict If the conflict you lived through at home as a child shows up again in your adult relationships. If you spot the family pattern and choose not to repeat it. Readiness to change If what you describe in this test weighs on your life and your relationships. If you want to change the way you function day to day.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Pattern Repetition- Tendency to unconsciously reproduce family patterns: choice of partner, failures, illnesses, occupations, or similar life situations.
- ●Family Debt- Sense of obligation toward the family, need to repay a symbolic debt or to repair injustices suffered by previous generations.
- ●Family Secrets- Presence of unspoken truths, taboos, and family secrets that weigh on the family system and influence subsequent generations.
- ●Liberation- Ability to free yourself from invisible loyalties, to live your own life, and to make autonomous choices without guilt.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of this topic on your life and start working on it.
- ●Your reading of these repetitions- How you yourself explain these repetitions and this sense of owing something to your family, before the test tells you anything at all. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it records your starting point, because these repetitions are not lived the same way depending on whether you see them as something passed down without being chosen, as the result of a specific event, or as your own way of being.
Reference frameworks and authors
- Karpman Drama Triangle (Karpman, 1968)
Why take this test?
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This test looks at invisible family loyalties — at what circulates within a family without ever being said. It examines several aspects: the scripts that replay from one generation to the next, the sense of owing something to your own people, the place silence occupies, and the room you already have to choose differently. The report describes each of them.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Pattern Repetition, Family Debt, Family Secrets, Liberation, Your reading of these repetitions. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Pattern Repetition
Tendency to unconsciously reproduce family patterns: choice of partner, failures, illnesses, occupations, or similar life situations.
Family Debt
Sense of obligation toward the family, need to repay a symbolic debt or to repair injustices suffered by previous generations.
Family Secrets
Presence of unspoken truths, taboos, and family secrets that weigh on the family system and influence subsequent generations.
Liberation
Ability to free yourself from invisible loyalties, to live your own life, and to make autonomous choices without guilt.
Readiness to Change
Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of this topic on your life and start working on it.
Your reading of these repetitions
How you yourself explain these repetitions and this sense of owing something to your family, before the test tells you anything at all. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it records your starting point, because these repetitions are not lived the same way depending on whether you see them as something passed down without being chosen, as the result of a specific event, or as your own way of being.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Pattern Repetition, Family Debt, Family Secrets, Liberation, Your reading of these repetitions. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Pattern Repetition, Family Debt, Family Secrets…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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