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Is He (or She) Hiding Something From Me?
63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 14 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
Good morning,
This test is about what you observe yourself in this relationship. The report sets out four observations in order: the changes in habits, the new secrecy around devices and messages, the physical and emotional distancing, and the explanations that don't add up.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book Infidelity and Jealousy, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
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Is He (or She) Hiding Something From Me? — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test is about what you observe yourself: changes in habits, digital secrecy, distancing, and explanations that don't add up. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 14 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This interactive test covers secrecy, screens, lying, having your perception questioned, avoidance, switching between extremes, appearance, withdrawal, sexuality, tenderness, sleep, the future, speaking up, attention and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Secrecy If certain conversations visibly wait for you to leave the room. If what was open between you is still open today. Screens If, when you approach the couch, the screen turns over. If this person answers their messages in front of you, as always. Lying If you have already caught them in a lie. If their accounts of the same evening hold up over time. Having your perception questioned If what you hear doesn't quite match what you see of their days. If their accounts of an evening you were there match what you saw. Avoidance If a precise question about the time or place gets an evasive answer. If this person answers calmly when you ask where they were. Switching between extremes If this person swings from excessive kindness to coldness within the same evening. If this person comes home at the usual hours, and any gaps are explained. Appearance If this person takes much more care of their appearance than before, for no reason. If nothing has changed in their weekly habits. Withdrawal If this person is far less involved at home, groceries and meals included. If this person is still interested in what you live through in your days. Sexuality If your sex life has stopped within a few weeks, for no identifiable reason. If this person looks at you as they did before, in the morning. Tenderness If the tender gestures of before, a hand on the back at night, have disappeared. If the emotional bond between you has stayed as vivid as it was a year ago. Sleep If their waking or bedtime hours have changed over the past few weeks. If this person stays out in the evening as little as before. The future If good or bad news that touches you leaves them indifferent. If this person talks about your shared future, holidays included, just as easily. Speaking up If you live with a doubt you have never been able to say out loud. If a simple question about their evening goes by without the tone rising. Attention If this person is absent in mind at the table, even while there in flesh and blood. If you have a rough idea of what fills their day, hour by hour. Readiness to change If this doubt weighs on your life right now. If you are ready to take a step to protect yourself.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Your reading of these changes in your partner- The way you explain these changes in your partner, before the test tells you anything. This section does not measure any difficulty and does not produce a level: it collects a starting reading.
- ●Behavioral Changes- What you notice has changed in the other person's habits over an identifiable period. The report gathers dated observations without assigning them a cause: a change always admits several readings.
- ●Digital Secrecy- The evolution of what remains accessible to you in their daily and digital life. This dimension is about a variation from prior use, not a degree of transparency in itself.
- ●Intimate Distancing- The current state of the emotional and physical bond between you, compared with what it used to be. The report reads it as a separate data point: a distance can have other origins than the one worrying you.
- ●Consistency of Accounts- How well what you're told holds up over time. This dimension is about the constancy of versions, the only thing you can observe directly, unlike intentions.
- ●Readiness to Face the Situation- Your current position in front of this doubt, read separately: the place it has taken, the wish to see clearly, and the feeling of being able to face it do not necessarily evolve together.
Reference frameworks and authors
This test organizes observable behavioral signals along five dimensions. There is currently no clinically validated instrument to assess the likelihood of infidelity through a self-report questionnaire — this would be methodologically impossible (the respondent observes a third party). This test is a tool for structuring observation, not a clinical assessment. A high score is a warning sign inviting you to seek clarity, never proof or a verdict.
Why take this test?
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This test is about what you observe yourself in this relationship. The report sets out four observations in order: the changes in habits, the new secrecy around devices and messages, the physical and emotional distancing, and the explanations that don't add up.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Your reading of these changes in your partner, Behavioral Changes, Digital Secrecy, Intimate Distancing, Consistency of Accounts. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Your reading of these changes in your partner
The way you explain these changes in your partner, before the test tells you anything. This section does not measure any difficulty and does not produce a level: it collects a starting reading.
Behavioral Changes
What you notice has changed in the other person's habits over an identifiable period. The report gathers dated observations without assigning them a cause: a change always admits several readings.
Digital Secrecy
The evolution of what remains accessible to you in their daily and digital life. This dimension is about a variation from prior use, not a degree of transparency in itself.
Intimate Distancing
The current state of the emotional and physical bond between you, compared with what it used to be. The report reads it as a separate data point: a distance can have other origins than the one worrying you.
Consistency of Accounts
How well what you're told holds up over time. This dimension is about the constancy of versions, the only thing you can observe directly, unlike intentions.
Readiness to Face the Situation
Your current position in front of this doubt, read separately: the place it has taken, the wish to see clearly, and the feeling of being able to face it do not necessarily evolve together.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Your reading of these changes in your partner, Behavioral Changes, Digital Secrecy, Intimate Distancing, Consistency of Accounts. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Your reading of these changes in your partner, Behavioral Changes, Digital Secrecy…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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