Hello Emma,
Profile synthesis
On the terrain of connection with others, what follows describes relational dynamics — ways of relating that can evolve, not verdicts. Your answers reveal some moderate signals. Without dramatizing, these elements can be observed and discussed with a trusted person. A moderate situation is not a trivial one: it describes very real difficulties, simply not yet overwhelming. It is often at this stage that it is easiest to act, before things settle in for good. Briefly noting the moments when the situation weighs more — when, with whom, in what context — helps you see clearly and makes the conversation easier, whether with a loved one or a professional.
Overall result
Mixed satisfaction — levers existYour sex life has real positive aspects but also areas of dissatisfaction worth addressing.
Your profile at a glance
Detailed analysis
This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.
Your answers suggest the frequency of your sex life broadly matches what you would like. The gap between expectations and reality appears small.
Your answers for frequency and fit do not indicate that this dimension is a central point of the situation you currently describe. This may mean that the situation does not particularly engage this facet, or that it has remained stable on this point. This is not a detail, however: knowing where the situation does not weigh helps you better pinpoint where it does, and therefore focus your attention in the right place. This observation is useful to keep as a benchmark: if the situation evolves, comparing it to future answers will help measure its meaning and direction. A dimension that is stable today may stay that way, or shift if the context changes — hence the value of not losing sight of it.
Recommendations
- ✓You can continue paying attention to what fosters spontaneity and desire in your relationship.
- ✓You can name explicitly to your partner what is working well.
This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.
Pleasure is present but with limits or moments of disappointment. Reciprocity is not always there.
Your answers for pleasure experienced reveal moderate signals. Without dramatizing, these elements deserve to be observed over time: a moderate dimension that settles in can become more pervasive through accumulation. The moderate level, in a situation, is often the moment when one hesitates — "am I overreacting? am I imagining things?": this doubt is normal, and it takes nothing away from the legitimacy of what you feel. If you wish, taking brief notes about the moments when this dimension is more present can help understand the triggers and spot any patterns. This tracking can also be useful if you decide to talk to a professional or someone you trust: concrete, dated elements are easier to share than a diffuse impression.
Recommendations
- ✓You can identify what specifically diminishes pleasure — lack of foreplay, difficulty being present, asymmetry?
- ✓You can bring it up with your partner if you feel it can be heard.
- ✓You can explore with a sex therapist if pleasure is consistently below what you hope for.
This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.
You can talk about sex, express desires, and accept feedback without it becoming taboo or conflictual. This is a real asset for your intimate life.
On sexual communication, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓You can keep cultivating this openness.
- ✓You can explore the other dimensions for specific areas of attention.
This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.
You have desires or ideas for growth, but they remain partially unexpressed or hard to formulate.
On desires for growth, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓You can start by naming for yourself what you would like to see change.
- ✓You can look for a space to bring it up with your partner, if you feel it can be heard.
- ✓You can consult a sex therapist if you don't know how to formulate or initiate this conversation.
This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.
You are not yet ready to take concrete steps, or you don't feel convinced things could change. This is a valid stage.
On readiness to act, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓You can re-read your report with open curiosity, without pressure to act.
- ✓You can ask yourself what is holding you back.
Your action plan
Right now
- →If you are in immediate danger, contact your local emergency services.
- →Pleasure experienced — You can identify what specifically diminishes pleasure — lack of foreplay, difficulty being present, asymmetry?
- →Pleasure experienced — You can bring it up with your partner if you feel it can be heard.
- →Desires for growth — You can start by naming for yourself what you would like to see change.
- →Desires for growth — You can look for a space to bring it up with your partner, if you feel it can be heard.
In the coming weeks
- →Pleasure experienced — You can explore with a sex therapist if pleasure is consistently below what you hope for.
- →Desires for growth — You can consult a sex therapist if you don't know how to formulate or initiate this conversation.
In the long run
- →Retake this questionnaire in 3 to 6 months to observe the evolution of the situation. If scores increase, it is a signal to discuss with a professional.
- →Identify a resource person (trusted loved one, professional, helpline) with whom to talk about this situation safely, even if you are not ready to say everything.
- →Set up a minimum safety plan (safe place, emergency contacts, important documents accessible) if the situation requires — it is preparation, not a decision.
Resources & exercise
7-day observation journal
Each day, spot one situation where “Pleasure experienced” showed up. Note the automatic thought, the emotion (0–100) and what you did. Then write one more balanced, alternative reading. After 7 days, re-read your notes: the recurring patterns become visible — the first step to change them.
Support resources
If you are struggling, you are not alone. United States: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7). Elsewhere: find your local line at findahelpline.com. This report supports self-knowledge and does not replace a consultation with a psychologist or doctor.
Find a professional
To go further, working with a professional is valuable. A few trusted directories to find a practitioner near you:
Tip: prioritise licensed/registered professionals and evidence-based therapies (e.g. CBT).
How this report is produced
This report is generated by artificial intelligence from your answers only, structured around recognised clinical models (attachment theory, CBT, Young’s schemas…) cited within the report. No health professional is involved in writing it. It is a self-knowledge tool, not a diagnosis: the analyses are avenues for understanding to weigh against your own experience, and do not replace the assessment of a health professional.
Your answers in detail
1. The frequency of our sexual relations broadly matches what I would like.
Answer : Somewhat agree
You answered "Somewhat agree". Can you tell me more about when this comes up for you?
It mainly shows up in situations that matter to me, when I feel under pressure or emotionally involved.
2. The gap between the frequency I would like and the frequency we have weighs on me.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
And how long have you noticed this?
It has been more present over the past few months, though I recognise it from before too.
3. The frequency of our sex life has decreased and that affects me.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
4. The difference in desire between us is a recurring source of tension.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
5. I sometimes feel compelled to accept or refuse by default rather than by choice.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
6. Our intimate moments are spaced out enough that I feel desire again when they come.
Answer : Somewhat agree
7. …
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