Is My Relationship in Danger? Gottman Warning Signs Test
Identify warning signals in your relationship across four dimensions
Detailed report (interpreted score, radar chart, clinical frameworks, action plan) available after the test, for €2.99.
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- ✓Overall score with interpretation
- ✓Analysis of each dimension
- ✓Detailed radar chart
- ✓Personalized recommendations
- ✓Resources and exercises
- ✓Our questions, your answers
- ✓PDF book included : « The Practical CBT Guide »
- ✓Option to leave a review
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The Is My Relationship in Danger? Gottman Warning Signs is a 64-question self-assessment measuring 5 key dimensions. Identification of relational warning signals: Gottman's Four Horsemen (contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) and progressive emotional distance. After completing it you get an instant overview, then a detailed PDF report (€2.99): scores per dimension, a radar chart and a personalized action plan. This tool is for self-knowledge and does not replace a professional consultation.
About this test
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Some couples go through difficult periods without putting their foundations at risk. Others accumulate signals that, according to John Gottman's research, predict with remarkable accuracy the deterioration to come. These signals are not about the intensity of conflicts — all couples argue — but about their quality: the presence of contempt, recurring defensive attitudes, stonewalling, and progressive emotional distance. This test explores four dimensions: general warning signals (escalation, avoidance, repetitive patterns), the presence of contempt (the strongest predictor of separation according to Gottman), defensiveness that prevents repair, and the emotional distance that gradually sets in. Each dimension receives a detailed score with concrete suggestions. This assessment does not say that your relationship will end — it identifies areas that deserve serious attention.
Dimensions assessed
- ●General Warning Signals- General indicators of relational fragility: repetitive patterns, conflict escalation, avoided subjects, feelings of being stuck or hopeless.
- ●Contempt- Presence of contempt, sarcasm, condescension, or belittling — the strongest predictor of separation according to Gottman.
- ●Defensiveness- Difficulty acknowledging one's faults, systematic counter-attack, feeling like the victim — attitudes that block repair.
- ●Emotional Distance- Progressive withdrawal, reduction in intimate exchanges, feeling of loneliness in the relationship, parallel lives without real connection.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to become aware of the signals present in your relationship and to engage in a process of growth.
Why take this test?
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Personal development relies on deep self-knowledge: your values, emotional intelligence, resilience, and self-confidence. Assessing these dimensions gives you a clear roadmap for growth and achieving your life goals.
The Is My Relationship in Danger? Gottman Warning Signs specifically evaluates 5 key dimensions: General Warning Signals, Contempt, Defensiveness, Emotional Distance, Readiness to Change. With 64 carefully crafted questions, it provides a detailed and nuanced picture of your psychological profile in this area. The test takes approximately 15 min and can be completed at your own pace, from any device.
Whether you’re seeking personal development, considering therapy, or simply curious about yourself, this test gives you concrete and actionable results to move forward with confidence.
Daily-life situations this test explores
To help you picture what to expect before you start, here are the concrete contexts the Is My Relationship in Danger? Gottman Warning Signs sheds light on. This is not the list of questions (you discover them when you start the test) — it is the life situations it assesses.
In your life choices
How you make important decisions: listening to your values or following others’ expectations, projecting far or staying in survival mode.
Facing failure or setback
Your ability to bounce back: inner narratives, resources you mobilize, time to recover, lessons you draw from it.
In social relationships
Ease in connecting, setting limits, receiving a compliment, refusing a request without guilt.
In self-knowledge
Clarity on your needs, emotions, strengths and shadow areas; ability to observe yourself without judgment.
The actual questions are not shown here: you discover them when you start the test.
How does it work?
Take the test
Answer the 64 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 15 min.
See your preview
Once you finish, you immediately see a preview of your overall score and profile by dimension — no registration required.
Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does the Is My Relationship in Danger? Gottman Warning Signs measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: General Warning Signals, Contempt, Defensiveness, Emotional Distance, Readiness to Change. Each dimension is scored individually, giving you a detailed view of your profile rather than a single overall number.
How long does the Is My Relationship in Danger? Gottman Warning Signs take?
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The test contains 64 questions and takes approximately 15 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report (18 pages) with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations is available for €2.99.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This test is based on established models in clinical psychology and psychometrics. It evaluates 5 dimensions (General Warning Signals, Contempt, Defensiveness...) using validated assessment scales. However, it is a self-assessment tool and does not replace a professional clinical diagnosis.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your Is My Relationship in Danger? Gottman Warning Signs report includes: your overall score with detailed interpretation, individual analysis of each of the 5 dimensions, a radar chart visualizing your profile, personalized recommendations for improvement, practical exercises, and additional resources.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is the Is My Relationship in Danger? Gottman Warning Signs for?
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This test is designed for any adult wishing to better understand their functioning in this area, whether out of curiosity, as part of a self-knowledge journey or to prepare a conversation with a professional. It is not a clinical diagnostic tool and does not replace a specialist consultation.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake the Is My Relationship in Danger? Gottman Warning Signs as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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Your report offers a clinical reading of your profile with concrete recommendations. You can use it as material for personal reflection, to open a conversation with someone close to you, or take it to a professional (psychologist, therapist, doctor) to enrich the consultation with a structured view of your dimensions.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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