Hello Emma,
Profile synthesis
On the terrain of connection with others, what follows describes relational dynamics — ways of relating that can evolve, not verdicts. Your answers reveal some moderate signals. Without dramatizing, these elements can be observed and discussed with a trusted person. A moderate situation is not a trivial one: it describes very real difficulties, simply not yet overwhelming. It is often at this stage that it is easiest to act, before things settle in for good. Briefly noting the moments when the situation weighs more — when, with whom, in what context — helps you see clearly and makes the conversation easier, whether with a loved one or a professional.
Overall result
Some signals to take seriouslyYour overall responses suggest some warning signals across several dimensions. The picture is mixed: some dynamics are concerning, others are less so. This profile indicates a relationship that has real strengths but is also showing patterns that deserve attention before they become entrenched.
Your profile at a glance
Detailed analysis
This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.
Your responses suggest few general relational warning signals. Patterns of criticism, avoidance, and recurring impasse seem little present. This does not mean the relationship is without difficulty, but the dynamics that Gottman identifies as most predictive of deterioration appear to be largely absent.
Your answers for general warning signals do not indicate that this dimension is a central point of the situation you currently describe. This may mean that the situation does not particularly engage this facet, or that it has remained stable on this point. This is not a detail, however: knowing where the situation does not weigh helps you better pinpoint where it does, and therefore focus your attention in the right place. This observation is useful to keep as a benchmark: if the situation evolves, comparing it to future answers will help measure its meaning and direction. A dimension that is stable today may stay that way, or shift if the context changes — hence the value of not losing sight of it.
Recommendations
- ✓You could continue being attentive to how you raise problems — the tone matters as much as the content.
- ✓You could note what helps you handle difficult topics without escalation, to reinforce these practices.
- ✓You could retake this test during a more tense period to see whether these scores hold.
This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.
Your responses suggest some signs of contempt or belittling: occasional sarcasm, moments of condescension, remarks that hurt without being systematic. These signals are worth taking seriously — contempt, even occasional, erodes the respect that is the foundation of a healthy relationship.
Your answers for contempt reveal moderate signals. Without dramatizing, these elements deserve to be observed over time: a moderate dimension that settles in can become more pervasive through accumulation. The moderate level, in a situation, is often the moment when one hesitates — "am I overreacting? am I imagining things?": this doubt is normal, and it takes nothing away from the legitimacy of what you feel. If you wish, taking brief notes about the moments when this dimension is more present can help understand the triggers and spot any patterns. This tracking can also be useful if you decide to talk to a professional or someone you trust: concrete, dated elements are easier to share than a diffuse impression.
Recommendations
- ✓You could name to your partner the specific things that feel contemptuous — not to accuse, but to make the impact visible.
- ✓You could distinguish between frustrated criticism (which all couples have) and contempt (which attacks the person) — the difference matters.
- ✓You could consider couple therapy if these signals are recurring: working on contempt specifically requires structured support.
This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.
Your responses suggest that defensiveness is little present: you and your partner can generally acknowledge mistakes, hear criticism without counter-attacking, and apologise sincerely. This capacity for non-defensive listening is a real relational asset.
On defensiveness, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓You could continue cultivating this openness to feedback — it is what makes repair possible.
- ✓You could notice the conditions that favour this non-defensive listening (calm, not tired, no time pressure) and protect them.
- ✓You could share with your partner what helps you hear difficult things — this reciprocal knowledge reinforces the dynamic.
This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.
Your responses suggest some emotional distance has set in: some important things are no longer shared, some intimate conversations have disappeared, some loneliness has crept in. This partial distance is common in lasting relationships — it signals that the connection needs to be nurtured more actively.
On emotional distance, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓You could identify the last time you had a conversation that truly mattered and try to recreate those conditions.
- ✓You could ask your partner a question about something they haven't spoken about for a while — genuine curiosity reopens connection.
- ✓You could consider whether there are unspoken things weighing on your relationship and whether they can be named.
This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.
These questions measure your readiness to evolve in the way you function in your relationship. Your score indicates that you are not yet fully convinced of the necessity or possibility of evolving — which is a valid stage. Awareness precedes decision. Your report helps you clarify what is at stake.
On readiness to change, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓You could re-read your report with open curiosity rather than pressure to change — understanding before acting is a stage in its own right.
- ✓You could observe, without judgment, what costs you most in your relationship and what you would like to see differently.
Your action plan
Right now
- →If you are in immediate danger, contact your local emergency services.
- →Contempt — You could name to your partner the specific things that feel contemptuous — not to accuse, but to make the impact visible.
- →Contempt — You could distinguish between frustrated criticism (which all couples have) and contempt (which attacks the person) — the difference matters.
- →Emotional Distance — You could identify the last time you had a conversation that truly mattered and try to recreate those conditions.
- →Emotional Distance — You could ask your partner a question about something they haven't spoken about for a while — genuine curiosity reopens connection.
In the coming weeks
- →Contempt — You could consider couple therapy if these signals are recurring: working on contempt specifically requires structured support.
- →Emotional Distance — You could consider whether there are unspoken things weighing on your relationship and whether they can be named.
In the long run
- →Retake this questionnaire in 3 to 6 months to observe the evolution of the situation. If scores increase, it is a signal to discuss with a professional.
- →Identify a resource person (trusted loved one, professional, helpline) with whom to talk about this situation safely, even if you are not ready to say everything.
- →Set up a minimum safety plan (safe place, emergency contacts, important documents accessible) if the situation requires — it is preparation, not a decision.
Resources & exercise
7-day observation journal
Each day, spot one situation where “Contempt” showed up. Note the automatic thought, the emotion (0–100) and what you did. Then write one more balanced, alternative reading. After 7 days, re-read your notes: the recurring patterns become visible — the first step to change them.
Support resources
If you are struggling, you are not alone. United States: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7). Elsewhere: find your local line at findahelpline.com. This report supports self-knowledge and does not replace a consultation with a psychologist or doctor.
Find a professional
To go further, working with a professional is valuable. A few trusted directories to find a practitioner near you:
Tip: prioritise licensed/registered professionals and evidence-based therapies (e.g. CBT).
How this report is produced
This report is generated by artificial intelligence from your answers only, structured around recognised clinical models (attachment theory, CBT, Young’s schemas…) cited within the report. No health professional is involved in writing it. It is a self-knowledge tool, not a diagnosis: the analyses are avenues for understanding to weigh against your own experience, and do not replace the assessment of a health professional.
Your answers in detail
1. My partner's criticisms often target who I am rather than what I did.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
You answered "Somewhat disagree". Can you tell me more about when this comes up for you?
It mainly shows up in situations that matter to me, when I feel under pressure or emotionally involved.
2. When we disagree, one of us often ends up cutting off the discussion.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
And how long have you noticed this?
It has been more present over the past few months, though I recognise it from before too.
3. My partner and I have subjects we no longer dare to bring up.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
4. After an argument, we take a long time to return to balance.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
5. My partner often adopts a posture of superiority in our interactions.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
6. When I raise a problem, the other person minimises it or immediately counter-attacks.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
7. …
The next questions (7, 8…) continue in your test. This sample only shows the beginning — the full test has 64 questions, and every answer refines your report.
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