Emotional intensity and the fear of abandonment

This interactive test covers mood, the body, anger, abandonment, separation, loneliness, attachment, identity, idealization and disappointment, urges, eating, spending, plans and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Mood Whether your emotional state swings from one extreme to the other between morning and afternoon. Whether you go from euphoria to despair within the same day. The body Whether, faced with something unexpected, your body reacts strongly — tight throat, tears, restlessness — before you even understand why. Whether, when an emotion takes hold of you, you feel it in your body: tight throat, sweaty hands. Anger Whether, when anger rises during an argument, you find it hard to hold it back in the moment. Whether, after an upset, your calm takes a long time to come back, well after the situation has been resolved. Abandonment Whether, when someone close starts calling less, you panic at the thought that they're pushing you aside. Whether, when you don't hear from someone who loves you, you doubt their feelings for you. Separation Whether, when someone close tells you they're going far away for a long time, you're overwhelmed with distress. Whether, when someone close goes away on a trip, their absence leaves you with a worry you can't shake. Loneliness Whether, in the evening, a deep emptiness settles in, like something missing that's hard to name. Whether a weekend with no one at home stirs up the fear of being left for good. Attachment Whether you cling to the people you love more tightly than you would like. Whether, when someone close lives far from you, you doubt how solid your bond is. Identity Whether, with acquaintances and then with friends, you feel like you turn into a different person. Whether, depending on whether you're with family or at a party, the way you act changes so much that it unsettles you. Idealization and disappointment Whether the same person seems wonderful to you for a while, then unbearable shortly after. Whether, after a disappointment, you can no longer see anything but the flaws of someone you loved until then. Urges Whether, when a strong emotion sweeps over you, you act right away, without weighing the consequences. Whether, in a moment of intense frustration, you lose control of what you do and say. Eating Whether, when your emotions overflow in the evening, you empty the fridge or order too much. Whether, when tension becomes unbearable at the end of the day, you turn to excess. Spending Whether, on impulse, you spend a sum you can't afford all in one go. Whether, when you're tempted to buy something, you pay on the spot, without taking time to think it over. Plans Whether your tastes and plans change so much that you find it hard to sum them up. Whether your goals and what you care about change from one stage of your life to the next. Readiness to change Whether what you've just described weighs on your daily life. Whether you want to change the way you function day to day.