Abandonment Issues Quiz: Understand Your Patterns

This test covers abandonment, rejection, hypervigilance, separation, anticipation, longing, sleep, the body, loneliness, reassurance, checking, control, avoidance, attachment and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Abandonment If, as soon as you become truly attached to someone, the fear of being left takes over. If you fully experience your relationships without trying to anticipate a possible breakup. Rejection If, when a friend cancels plans, you tend to think they no longer want to see you. If you easily tell the difference between a one-off disagreement and a rejection of who you are. Hypervigilance If you watch the facial expressions of those close to you to detect any displeasure toward you. If you take other people's behavior at face value, without reading rejection into it. Separation If, when your partner goes away for a few days, you spend those days feeling anxious. If you can consider a temporary separation calmly. Anticipation If you imagine worst-case scenarios when you have not heard from your partner. If, when someone takes a while to reply to you, you stay calm about the quality of your bond. Longing If being geographically far from someone you love triggers a painful sense of longing in you. If, even far from the people you love, you keep an inner sense of security and connection. Sleep If you find it hard to fall asleep when your partner is not by your side. If you feel calm when your partner is away, even for a long time. The body If you feel physical distress (knot in your stomach, tightness) at the thought that the other person might leave you. If you regain your composure fairly quickly when you are apart from someone who matters to you. Loneliness If, when you have to spend an evening alone, you feel a knot of anxiety at the thought of being on your own. If you are comfortable with your time apart from your partner, without thinking about it constantly. Reassurance If you ask your partner to confirm their feelings, even when nothing has called them into question. If you feel loved without needing to ask for reassurance constantly. Checking If you look for clues in your partner's behavior to check that they still care about you. If you trust your partner's feelings without needing to check on them. Control If you monitor your partner's social media or habits to reassure yourself about their commitment. If you feel secure in your relationship without needing constant proof. Avoidance If, when a relationship starts to get serious, you feel an urge to pull back to protect yourself. If you allow yourself to depend emotionally on someone without experiencing it as a threat. Attachment If you keep a part of yourself held back in your relationships, in case the other person leaves. If you allow yourself to become deeply attached, even though it carries a risk. Readiness to change If your fear of abandonment has a real impact on your relationships and life. If you believe you are capable of growing in this area.