Chargement…
← All tests
Emotional intensity and the fear of abandonment
63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 17 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
Good morning,
This test is about borderline traits (borderline personality disorder) through four aspects: the speed and the range of the mood swings, what the fear of being left sets off, the alternation between putting the same person on a pedestal and then being let down by them, and the impulsive moves and what they leave behind. The report sets out the material a consultation examines.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book Understanding Your Attachment Style, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
Secure payment by StripePayPayVISAPayPal
QUICK ANSWER
Emotional intensity and the fear of abandonment — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at borderline (BPD) traits: emotional instability, fear of abandonment, relational instability and impulsivity. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 17 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers mood, anger, abandonment, separation, reassurance, attachment, urges, tension, control, plans, identity, what others think, alternation and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Mood If your emotions change abruptly, sometimes within a few hours. If your emotions stay stable and easy to soothe. Anger If, when anger rises in you, you struggle to hold it in at the moment. If you regain your emotional balance fairly quickly after an upset. Abandonment If the fear of being abandoned haunts you in your relationships. If you trust that the people who love you will stay, even without constant proof. Separation If silence from someone you love throws you into panic. If you handle separations and distance with peace of mind. Reassurance If you sometimes test others' attachment to reassure yourself they'll be there. If you feel secure in your bonds, even from a distance. Attachment If you cling tightly to the people you love, sometimes more than you'd like. If you're fine spending time alone, without fearing you'll be left behind. Urges If your impulses push you into excess (spending, food, etc.). If you can put off your urges and think before you act. Tension If, when inner tension becomes unbearable, you turn to excess to relieve it. If, under pressure, you find healthy ways to calm yourself. Control If you act impulsively and regret it afterward. If you stay in control of your actions even when you're very upset. Plans If you sometimes make important decisions in a rushed way. If you plan your actions and weigh the pros and cons before deciding. Identity If your sense of identity (tastes, plans, values) feels blurry and shifting. If you have a stable, clear sense of who you are. What others think If, depending on the people you're around, you feel like you become a different person. If you feel like basically the same person, whatever the circumstances. Alternation If your opinion of someone can shift from all-positive to all-negative in a short time. If your view of the people you love stays balanced and steady. Readiness to change If these personality traits have a real impact on your life and relationships. If you believe you are capable of growing in this area.
About this test
▼
Dimensions assessed
- ●Your reading of these traits- How you explain to yourself the intensity of your emotions and your bonds, before the test tells you anything at all. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it collects a starting point specific to this topic. Your answer is picked up in the section of the report devoted to it.
- ●Emotional instability- Intense, shifting emotions that are hard to regulate.
- ●Fear of abandonment- Intense fear of being left, efforts to avoid abandonment.
- ●Relational and self-image instability- Roller-coaster relationships (idealization/devaluation), fluctuating sense of self.
- ●Impulsivity- Impulsive, potentially harmful behaviors (spending, driving, excess, etc.).
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of this topic on your life and engage in a process of growth.
Reference frameworks and authors
- based on Personality Inventory for DSM-5 (PID-5) (Krueger, Derringer, Markon, Watson & Skodol, 2012)
- DSM-5 — Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (American Psychiatric Association, 2013)
Why take this test?
▼
This test is about borderline traits (borderline personality disorder) through four aspects: the speed and the range of the mood swings, what the fear of being left sets off, the alternation between putting the same person on a pedestal and then being let down by them, and the impulsive moves and what they leave behind. The report sets out the material a consultation examines.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Your reading of these traits, Emotional instability, Fear of abandonment, Relational and self-image instability, Impulsivity. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Your reading of these traits
How you explain to yourself the intensity of your emotions and your bonds, before the test tells you anything at all. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it collects a starting point specific to this topic. Your answer is picked up in the section of the report devoted to it.
Emotional instability
Intense, shifting emotions that are hard to regulate.
Fear of abandonment
Intense fear of being left, efforts to avoid abandonment.
Relational and self-image instability
Roller-coaster relationships (idealization/devaluation), fluctuating sense of self.
Impulsivity
Impulsive, potentially harmful behaviors (spending, driving, excess, etc.).
Readiness to Change
Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of this topic on your life and engage in a process of growth.
How does it work?
1
Take the test
Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
2
Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
3
Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
▼
This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Your reading of these traits, Emotional instability, Fear of abandonment, Relational and self-image instability, Impulsivity. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
▼
The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
▼
The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
▼
This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Your reading of these traits, Emotional instability, Fear of abandonment…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
▼
Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
▼
No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
▼
Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
▼
Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
▼
The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
▼
Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
Related Resources
Personal Development Resources
Our articles on personal development and self-knowledge.
Other tests
Relationships & Couples
Abandonment Issues Quiz: Understand Your Patterns
Abandonment issues quiz: explore separation anxiety, reassurance seeking, sensitivity to rejection and responses to distance.
63 questionsReport: €2.90
Personal Development
Emotional Regulation Test: identify, express and manage emotions
This test looks at emotional management in four linked stages: recognizing and naming, expressing, returning to calm, and using what the emotion signals.
63 questionsReport: €2.90
Personality
Early Maladaptive Schemas Test: Explore Your Patterns
Early maladaptive schemas test: explore recurring beliefs and relationship patterns. A self-reflection tool inspired by Young’s model.
64 questionsReport: €2.90
Impulse Control & Behavior
Anger and Impulsivity Test: Understand Your Reactions
Anger test: reflect on frequency, frustration, expression and recovery. Explore your reactions without treating a questionnaire as a diagnosis.
63 questionsReport: €2.90
Test developed by Psychologie et Sérénité. Does not replace a professional consultation.