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An in-depth assessment to better understand your strengths, the areas that deserve your attention, and how the different dimensions of your profile relate to one another.
This assessment explores 8 dimensions
What Remains of the Bond · With the Other Parent · What It Does to You · When Tension Rises · What Remains of You as a Parent · Your Reading of the Situation · Where the Bond Stands Today · Readiness to Change
Your report doesn't stop at separate scores. It also highlights the contrasts and connections between your results to offer a more personal reading of your profile.
Hello Emma,
On the terrain of connection with others, what follows describes relational dynamics — ways of relating that can evolve, not verdicts.
Your answers reveal some moderate signals. Without dramatizing, these elements can be observed and discussed with a trusted person. A moderate situation is not a trivial one: it describes very real difficulties, simply not yet overwhelming. It is often at this stage that it is easiest to act, before things settle in for good. Briefly noting the moments when the situation weighs more — when, with whom, in what context — helps you see clearly and makes the conversation easier, whether with a loved one or a professional.
Overall result
ModerateYour answers describe a real but partial weight: the bond grows strained in places, the arrangement with the other parent holds intermittently, and the impact makes itself felt without taking over your whole life. What you report describes a state, not a cause. It says that part of this situation keeps weighing on you, with an intensity that varies by the day and by the dimension.
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Moderate
2 dimensions to strengthen, 4 strengths
8 dimensions · Personalized report
Open the different sections to discover how the same profile can be analysed from several angles. Your own report will follow this same logic, built from your own answers.
Your answers describe a bond that works in its everyday gestures: scheduled times take place, exchanges happen, simple moments pass without noticeable tension. What you report does not signal an estrangement taking hold, even if the separation may have changed its rhythm. A bond that holds in everyday life is the most solid base there is; it does not need to be watched over to last, and it is often by stepping back from watching it that you let it breathe.
Your answers for what remains of the bond do not indicate that this dimension is a central point of the situation you currently describe. This may mean that the situation does not particularly engage this facet, or that it has remained stable on this point. This is not a detail, however: knowing where the situation does not weigh helps you better pinpoint where it does, and therefore focus your attention in the right place.
This observation is useful to keep as a benchmark: if the situation evolves, comparing it to future answers will help measure its meaning and direction. A dimension that is stable today may stay that way, or shift if the context changes — hence the value of not losing sight of it.
Recommendations and concrete exercises
Your answers describe an arrangement that works between the two households: information circulates, decisions reach you, handovers happen at the agreed times. That does not mean everything is simple with the other parent; it means that what concerns your child is kept apart from what divides you. That is exactly what protects a child in a separation, and it is worth preserving.
On with the other parent, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations and concrete exercises
Your answers describe a contained impact: what happens with your child reaches you, but does not take over your body, your thoughts or your days. You can spend a moment with your child without the other parent intruding on it, look at a photo without the day tipping over, feel glad about good news even from the other home. This is not indifference; it is what allows you to hold on over time.
On what it does to you, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations and concrete exercises
Your answers describe ways of responding that, under the pressure of estrangement, tend to draw on your child more than let them come on their own: messages and gifts that pile up, your version of events given on the spot, questions about the other household, or, at the other extreme, total withdrawal while waiting for it to come from them. None of these reactions is a flaw; they are all what a parent does when afraid of losing their child. But they keep alive the very tension they are trying to reduce, and that is what the report wants to make visible to you.
Your answers for when tension rises highlight significant signals. Your feelings are legitimate: these answers describe a situation you are currently going through, not a trait that would define you. This is an important distinction: a situation changes when the context changes or when you act on it, whereas a trait would give the impression of being "just how you are" with no way out.
You are not the problem; you are facing a situation that is. At this level, it can become difficult to keep a clear view of the situation from within; the outside perspective of a trusted person, a professional, or a helpline can help gain perspective. If several dimensions are simultaneously elevated, this reinforces the need for external support — it is not a failure, it is a normal logic of the situation.
Recommendations and concrete exercises
Your answers describe a place as a parent that holds: you keep your role even during periods without contact, you talk about it to someone you trust without playing it down or up, you make decisions that concern you without making them depend on what your child will do. This is what allows you to remain the parent your child will find again, rather than the parent the separation wore down.
On what remains of you as a parent, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations and concrete exercises
This question measures no difficulty and produces no level: it gathers the way you explain your child's estrangement to yourself. None of the proposed answers is judged here. What matters is that the reading you make of an estrangement shapes what you do with it: holding the other parent responsible, seeing it as something built together, recognising your own part in it, or being unable to explain it, do not call for the same next step. Your answer is picked up again in the section of the report devoted to you.
Your Reading of the Situation: you answered "Something that has built up between my child and me". This framing question is not scored and indicates neither a difficulty nor a resource: it records your starting point, which the rest of the report can confirm or shift.
Recommendations and concrete exercises
This question measures nothing: it situates the current state of the bond with your child, so the rest of the report can be read in your own situation. You indicated a bond that is reduced compared with what was agreed: less time, less often, or otherwise than planned. This reduction deserves attention before it becomes the new normal.
Where the Bond Stands Today: you answered "Reduced compared with what was agreed". This framing question is not scored and indicates neither a difficulty nor a resource: it records your starting point, which the rest of the report can confirm or shift.
Recommendations and concrete exercises
Your answers: "What I've just described weighs on my life as a parent." — Rather not ; "I want to change the way I get through this period." — Rather not. This stage sums up these answers as you gave them; it says nothing more than what you answered.
On readiness to change, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations and concrete exercises
Your profile shows clear relief without several dimensions rising together: When Tension Rises stands out, 63 points above With the Other Parent, while the others remain more measured. This reads differently from a picture where several dimensions reinforce one another: here, what is at play seems concentrated rather than diffuse.
That is often more tractable — an identified point is easier to work on than a tangled whole — provided it is not treated in isolation: even concentrated, it rests on the rest of how you function.
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Support resources
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1. For you, your child's distance is above all:
Answer : Something that has built up between my child and me.
You answered "Something that has built up between my child and me.". Can you tell me more about when this comes up for you?
It mainly shows up in situations that matter to me, when I feel under pressure or emotionally involved.
2. Today, the bond with your child is:
Answer : Reduced compared with what was agreed.
And how long have you noticed this?
It has been more present over the past few months, though I recognise it from before too.
3. When time with my child is scheduled, it takes place as agreed.
Answer : Yes
4. My child answers my messages or calls within the day.
Answer : Yes
5. When we see each other, my child tells me about their everyday life without my having to press.
Answer : Yes
6. Scheduled time with my child is cancelled or cut short without my knowing the reason.
Answer : Sometimes
The example shown on this page illustrates the format and level of detail of the report. Your own analysis will be different, because it will be built from your own answers.
What is interesting is not just your score on each dimension. Your report also seeks to identify the contrasts and interactions between your results: a strong resource that offsets a fragility, a dimension that seems to play a central role, or a gap between several aspects of how you function.
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