Parental Alienation Test

This interactive test covers the bond, scheduled times, reported words, arrangements, the other parent, what it does to you, recurring thoughts, pressure, listening, withdrawal, other people's view, your place as a parent, support, and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example The bond Whether scheduled time with your child is cancelled or cut short without your knowing why. Whether, when you see your child, a simple moment, a meal or a car ride, passes without tension. Scheduled times Whether your child refuses scheduled time with you, with no event between you to explain it. Whether, when time with your child is planned, it takes place as agreed. Reported words Whether, when you see your child, they use words or reproaches about you that sound new in their mouth. Whether, when you tell your child about a plan, they picture themselves in it with you. Arrangements Whether a change in arrangements is announced to you after the fact, or not at all. Whether information about your child's health or schooling reaches you through the other parent. The other parent Whether, when your child is with you, the other parent calls them at times that cut into your moments. Whether exchanges with the other parent stay focused on arrangements, without going back over the separation. What it does to you Whether, when scheduled time with your child falls through, the tension that settles in your body is still there the next day. Whether you can spend a moment with your child without thinking about what is happening with the other parent. Recurring thoughts Whether, when your child keeps you at a distance, what you tell yourself sounds like: it's over between us. Whether you feel glad about good news from your child, even when it comes from the other home. Pressure Whether, when your child keeps their distance, you send message after message until you get an answer. Whether, when a scheduled time falls through, you propose another date without going back over what happened. Listening Whether, when your child reports something the other parent said, you give them your version on the spot. Whether you listen to your child without commenting on the other parent in their presence. Withdrawal Whether you give up on proposing time with your child, even though you want to. Whether, when tension rises with the other parent, you put the exchange off until later. Other people's view Whether, among other parents, you change the subject when the talk turns to your children. Whether you tell someone you trust where things stand, without playing it down or up. Your place as a parent Whether, since your child grew distant, you have let go of activities that did you good. Whether you keep carrying out your role — appointments, paperwork, supplies — even during the periods when you do not see each other. Support Whether, when you take stock, what you tell yourself sounds like: I've missed something I won't get back. Whether you have sought support to get through this period. Readiness to change Whether what you have just described weighs on your life as a parent. Whether you want to change the way you get through this period.