This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.

The ability to listen attentively to your partner, understand their point of view and validate their emotions.

Your moderate score on active listening points to a real ability to hear your partner, with room to grow. Active listening is not just staying silent while the other speaks: it is seeking to understand their experience, reflecting back what you hear, asking questions, holding off on preparing your reply. One way of reading it — to weigh against your own experience — is that your listening may be more available in calm moments than under tension: it is precisely when conflict rises that listening closes down (you prepare your defence instead of hearing), yet that is when it matters most. The moderate level, paired with more difficult conflict management, points toward this reading. Strengthening listening, especially under tension, is a powerful lever: feeling heard defuses much of couple conflict, even before any agreement on the substance.

This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.

The ability to express your needs, emotions and thoughts clearly and constructively.

Your moderate score on self-expression points to some difficulty stating your needs, feelings and limits clearly and directly. One way of reading it — to weigh against your experience — is that you may tend to wait for the other to guess, to express yourself through hints or withdrawal, or to let the unspoken build up until it overflows. Yet indirect expression is one of the main sources of misunderstanding in a couple: your partner can only respond to what is voiced, not to what is left unsaid. The encouraging point is that self-expression is a very concrete skill that is learned, notably through assertive communication (saying 'I' rather than 'you', naming the need rather than blaming). Expressing what is happening inside you, far from being a risk to the bond, is what allows the other to meet you.

This tendency is discreet in you — here is what it tells about you.

The skills to handle disagreements in a healthy way, without destructive escalation or avoidance.

Your low score on conflict management is probably the most sensitive point of your couple communication. A low score can cover two opposite profiles — to weigh against your experience: either avoidance (you flee conflict, go quiet, give in for peace, but tensions accumulate), or escalation (conflict rises fast in intensity, you hurt each other, you can't return to calm). In both cases, conflict isn't handled constructively. It is essential to recall that conflict itself is not the problem: all couples disagree. What sets lasting couples apart, according to research, is not the absence of conflict but the way they move through it — without contempt, without attacking the person, with attempts at repair. The good news is that conflict management is the most teachable couple skill, and even modest progress has a major impact on relationship satisfaction.

This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.

The ability to create and maintain a deep emotional connection with your partner.

Your moderate-high score on emotional intimacy is a real strength: it indicates a genuine desire and capacity for closeness, for sharing your inner world, for vulnerability in the bond. Emotional intimacy is the glue of a couple: it is what turns two people who cohabit into two people who truly know each other. One way of reading it — to weigh against your experience — is that this intimacy, clearly present, may be held back by the difficulties in expression and conflict management: you cannot fully open up to someone with whom disagreements go badly, or to whom you don't dare say what you feel. In other words, your capacity for intimacy is fertile ground that the other dimensions can either curb or release. Strengthening self-expression and constructive conflict management thus tends to deepen an intimacy that is already wanted. That is an encouraging dynamic: the lever lies in skills that can be learned.