My child's emotional intelligence

This test covers mood, anger, tension, urges, empathy, listening, conflict, repair, speaking your mind, support, rumination, failure, perseverance and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Mood If your child can name what they are feeling — fear, sadness, joy, anger — without you suggesting the word. If your child distinguishes between closely related emotions such as disappointment and sadness. Anger If your child expresses anger without physically or verbally hurting others. If your child uses their emotions to make better decisions — for example, I am too angry to talk right now. Tension If your child recognizes when they are about to overflow emotionally. If your child recognizes when a situation is making them uncomfortable before it becomes a crisis. Urges If your child knows how to delay a reaction in order to choose a better response. If your child can wait or delay an emotional reaction when the moment is not right. Empathy If your child notices when a joke or behavior hurts someone, even if the other person does not say so. If your child takes a genuine interest in other people's lives, not only their own. Listening If your child interrupts and brings everything back to themselves when someone is talking. If your child adapts their approach depending on whether someone needs to be comforted or simply heard. Conflict If your child puts themselves in the other person's shoes before reacting in a conflict. If your child tries to understand what happened after a conflict rather than just who was wrong. Repair If your child knows how to offer a sincere apology when they have hurt someone. If your child does not hold on to grudges — they release what weighs on them rather than keeping it inside. Speaking your mind If your child expresses their emotions without apologizing for them or minimizing them. If your child does not suppress their emotions — they express them even when it is difficult. Support If your child is able to actively seek support when they are struggling. If your child stays alone with an emotion that overwhelms them rather than asking for help. Rumination If your child believes that once an emotion is there, it is going to last indefinitely. If your child revisits a difficult situation afterwards to understand the emotional side of it. Failure If your child is overwhelmed by shame or discouragement after a failure. If your child is not paralyzed by fear of getting things wrong. Perseverance If your child gives up their effort as soon as an activity becomes emotionally costly. If your child finds resources to move forward in difficult moments. Readiness to change If you feel ready to explore what might enrich your child's emotional life. If you would be happy to change something in the way you talk about emotions.