Jealousy Test: Jealousy and Possessiveness

This test covers jealousy, self-esteem, abandonment, reassurance, anticipation, comparison, appearance, humiliation, rumination, anger, dialogue, control, checking, secrecy and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Jealousy If, when your partner compliments a quality in someone else, you feel a twinge of jealousy. If you stay calm when your partner likes or compliments someone else. Self-esteem If you're afraid your partner will find someone better than you. If you sincerely believe that you deserve your partner's love. Abandonment If you fear being abandoned in the end in your romantic relationships. If you feel you belong in your relationship, without fearing that you're not good enough. Reassurance If you doubt your partner's commitment to you. If you feel secure in your relationship without needing constant reassurance. Anticipation If, when your partner is slow to reply in the evening, you immediately imagine the worst. If, even if your partner meets attractive people, you stay calm about your relationship. Comparison If you compare your looks to people your partner might find attractive. If you feel good about yourself without comparing yourself to your partner's exes or loved ones. Appearance If when you come across the attractive profile of one of your partner's colleagues, you feel insecure. If you're convinced you bring your partner things no one else can offer them. Humiliation If, when your partner openly admires someone's success, you feel diminished. If the success or charm of others doesn't threaten the confidence you have in your relationship. Rumination If you dwell on scenarios of infidelity in your head for hours. If, when you feel jealous, you are able to step back before reacting. Anger If, in the grip of jealousy, you sometimes say hurtful things. If, even when upset by jealousy, you stay in control of your words and actions. Dialogue If, when your partner is unreachable for an evening, you flood them with calls and messages. If you can talk about your feelings with your partner calmly, without blame or accusations. Control If you check your partner's online activity times, when they log in or out. If you trust your partner without needing to verify what they tell you. Checking If you read through your partner's conversations whenever you get the chance. If you respect your partner's privacy, including their phone and messages. Secrecy If, when your partner leaves the room to take a call, you immediately wonder what they're hiding from you. If, when your partner goes out without you, you don't feel the need to know everything they do. Readiness to change If these jealous reactions have a real impact on your life and relationships. If you believe you are capable of growing in the way you react to jealousy.