I Love You, but I Don’t Believe You

A book on infidelity, jealousy and trust after betrayal. Explore emotional reactions and practical questions about rebuilding a relationship or deciding to leave.

You've just discovered an infidelity, or it's a jealousy you can no longer control that's eating away at you — and you no longer know whether your relationship can, or should, survive? This clinical guide draws on the work of recognized researchers (John Gottman, Shirley Glass, Esther Perel) and on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to explore, without judgment, why people cheat, what neuroscience reveals about jealousy (it activates the same brain circuits as physical pain), and how to get through the shock of discovery. Eight chapters guide you from the psychological mechanisms of infidelity and its new digital forms to five concrete steps for overcoming betrayal, the question of forgiveness, and — if it's the right decision — leaving. The final chapter addresses rebuilding trust, whether with the same partner or a new one. Every chapter offers anonymized clinical cases and practical exercises, to do alone or as a couple, to help you make informed choices instead of ones dictated by panic or shame.