Together, but No Longer Talking

A relationship book about recurring conflicts, communication and exercises for couples.

Is your relationship in crisis, and you can no longer tell whether it's repairable or ending? Do you argue in circles without ever resolving anything — or, worse, have you stopped arguing altogether? This guide draws on the work of John Gottman, who predicts divorce with over 90% accuracy after watching a couple interact for just fifteen minutes: you'll learn to spot the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) that signal real danger, and to restore the five-to-one ratio of positive to negative interactions that characterizes stable couples. The book combines this model with Bowlby's attachment theory, Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication, and Gary Chapman's five love languages, in a concrete, week-by-week program designed to turn good intentions into new habits. Every chapter pairs scientific research with practical exercises to defuse conflict, rebuild marital friendship, and rekindle genuine intimacy — not ready-made recipes, but a proven, structured method for couples willing to do the work.