The 5 Core Childhood Wounds Test

This test covers rejection, self-esteem, isolation, abandonment, loneliness, reassurance, boundaries, shame, humiliation, pleasure, responsibility, commitments, control, perfectionism, personal standards and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Rejection If you feel panicked at the idea of being rejected by someone you love. If you feel entitled to exist and take your place, even in front of strangers. Self-esteem If you often devalue yourself and minimize your qualities. If you allow yourself to take your place, even at the risk of being criticized. Isolation If you tend to isolate yourself when you feel bad or misunderstood. If you feel at ease in groups and social gatherings. Abandonment If, as a child, you often felt abandoned or neglected by a parent. If you handle your loved ones' absences calmly, without reading them as rejection. Loneliness If you have trouble being alone and always seek company. If you feel secure even when you are alone. Reassurance If you constantly seek attention and validation from others. If you feel loved without needing constant reassurance. Boundaries If you're willing to accept anything to avoid losing a relationship. If you know how to set your boundaries without letting yourself be overrun. Shame If you're often ashamed of your body, appearance, or needs. If you accept a compliment or help without feeling awkward or indebted. Humiliation If, as a child, you were ridiculed or humiliated by a parent or close person. If you use humor or self-deprecation to protect yourself. Pleasure If you often punish yourself or prevent yourself from enjoying pleasure. If you take time for yourself without guilt. Responsibility If you tend to overburden yourself with responsibilities to feel useful. If you know how to protect your needs while caring about others. Commitments If you feel betrayed when someone doesn't honor their commitments. If, as a child, a parent made promises they didn't keep. Control If you need to stay in control and find it hard to delegate important things. If you know how to let go of control and trust others. Perfectionism If you're very demanding of yourself and don't tolerate failure. If you know how to accept imperfection, in yourself and in others. Personal standards If, as a child, you were asked to be perfect and not show your weaknesses. If you allow yourself to make mistakes and keep perspective when a result is imperfect. Readiness to change If your core wounds have a real impact on your adult life. If you believe you are capable of growing in this area.