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Emotional Wounds in the Couple
63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 18 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
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This test looks at the emotional traces of the past that still influence the relationship. It describes traces rather than culprits: what gets reactivated from old experiences, what is projected onto the other at that moment, the gap between the intensity of a reaction and its trigger, and what makes it possible to find each other again afterwards. The report describes each of these aspects.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book Our Archaic Wounds — The 5 Soul Wounds, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
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Emotional Wounds in the Couple — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at the emotional traces of the past still active in the relationship: reactivation, projection, disproportionate reactions, repair. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 18 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers the relationship, attachment, reassurance, hypervigilance, anticipation, anger, tension, conflict, shame, remorse, repair, withdrawal, support and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example The relationship If you feel an old story is replaying itself in this one. If you can savor today without yesterday getting involved. Attachment If a word from them makes you react as if it were a line you'd heard in another story. If you can say which old story wakes up when an argument gets to you. Reassurance If you need reassurance more often than most people. If a message left unanswered for a few hours puts you on alert. Hypervigilance If you watch for signals because you already know where they lead. If you can listen to them without the filter of an old wound. Anticipation If you build dark scenarios that don't come true. If you see them as they are, even in the middle of the storm. Anger If a sigh or a door shut a little hard is enough to tip everything over. If you can go through tension without being carried away. Tension If your own intensity takes you by surprise. If you know how to come back to calm after an outburst. Conflict If, after a fight, the silence can last several days in your home. If you can disagree without it turning into a crisis. Shame If, after an outburst, you are left alone with the shame. If you try to understand your reactions rather than condemn yourself. Remorse If you recognize afterward that the situation was not worth it. If you have already apologized for having misread something. Repair If the same subjects, left unanswered, come back in every argument. If you have a gesture, a word, a habit that puts things back in place. Withdrawal If, when you are the one who was hurt, you wait for the other to come first. If you can come back to the other before you have untangled everything. Support If taking the first step drains you of your energy. If, after a bad patch, you know how to find each other again the same evening. Readiness to change If what the test describes weighs on your life as a couple. If you want to grow in the way you function, and you believe you're capable of it.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Your reading of what replays- The way you explain what keeps replaying in your relationship, before the test tells you anything about it. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it captures a starting reading, and none of the four proposed answers is more correct than another. Your answer is picked up and discussed in the section of the report devoted to you.
- ●Reactivation of past wounds- Painful past experiences — from childhood, previous relationships, or the current relationship — can be reactivated in the couple, often without the person being aware of it.
- ●Projection onto the partner- When a wound is active, we sometimes attribute to the other person intentions or behaviors that the situation does not fully explain.
- ●Disproportionate reactions- A reactivated wound can generate an emotional reaction that seems out of proportion with the triggering situation.
- ●Capacity to repair- After difficult moments, the capacity to find each other again, to acknowledge what happened, and to rebuild connection is central in any relationship.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge what you are experiencing and allow your situation to evolve.
Reference frameworks and authors
Emotional wounds do not define who you are. They tell the story of what you have been through — and of what you have put in place to protect yourself or to keep going. This test is not looking for someone to blame: it explores the traces these experiences have left in you, and your capacity to move through them differently.
Why take this test?
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This test looks at the emotional traces of the past that still influence the relationship. It describes traces rather than culprits: what gets reactivated from old experiences, what is projected onto the other at that moment, the gap between the intensity of a reaction and its trigger, and what makes it possible to find each other again afterwards. The report describes each of these aspects.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Your reading of what replays, Reactivation of past wounds, Projection onto the partner, Disproportionate reactions, Capacity to repair. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Your reading of what replays
The way you explain what keeps replaying in your relationship, before the test tells you anything about it. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it captures a starting reading, and none of the four proposed answers is more correct than another. Your answer is picked up and discussed in the section of the report devoted to you.
Reactivation of past wounds
Painful past experiences — from childhood, previous relationships, or the current relationship — can be reactivated in the couple, often without the person being aware of it.
Projection onto the partner
When a wound is active, we sometimes attribute to the other person intentions or behaviors that the situation does not fully explain.
Disproportionate reactions
A reactivated wound can generate an emotional reaction that seems out of proportion with the triggering situation.
Capacity to repair
After difficult moments, the capacity to find each other again, to acknowledge what happened, and to rebuild connection is central in any relationship.
Readiness to Change
Measures your current readiness to acknowledge what you are experiencing and allow your situation to evolve.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Your reading of what replays, Reactivation of past wounds, Projection onto the partner, Disproportionate reactions, Capacity to repair. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Your reading of what replays, Reactivation of past wounds, Projection onto the partner…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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