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Are we still a couple or just roommates?
63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 14 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
Good morning,
This test looks at what remains alive in the relationship, beyond the organization of daily life. The report separates what is still alive from what has drifted away: the tenderness and the desire still there, what is being built together or no longer at all, everyday complicity, and the distance that no event explains.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book The Practical CBT Guide, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
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Are we still a couple or just roommates? — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at the dimensions still alive beyond the organization of daily life: tenderness, shared projects, complicity and settled distance. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of those dimensions, a radar chart, up to 14 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers the relationship, affection, desire, sexuality, attachment, plans, the future, dialogue, listening, support, loneliness, withdrawal, pleasure and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example The relationship If you live side by side more than together. If you are more than two people sharing an address. Affection If the closeness has gone out between you. If there is still tenderness in the everyday gestures. Desire If intimacy has gone into standby, in your home. If the attraction is still there, somewhere. Sexuality If that side of things has slipped into second place for you both. If your sexual life suits you, or you do not miss its absence. Attachment If you wonder whether the other still really knows you. If the attachment is still there, on your side. Plans If you have stopped building anything together. If you have plans you want to see through together. The future If the future together has become blurred for you. If, when you think of five years from now, the other is in the picture. Dialogue If your exchanges come down to shopping, schedules and bills. If you can still say real things to each other. Listening If you have stopped talking about yourselves, your fears, your wishes. If they notice when something is wrong, without you having to say it. Support If you run on automatic, with no real connection. If you feel supported in what you are going through. Loneliness If you sometimes feel alone in the same room as them. If you feel close to them. Withdrawal If each of you lives in your own bubble, the two never meeting. If you sometimes really find each other, rather than merely coexist. Pleasure If the lightness has gone, without your knowing when. If you still laugh together. Readiness to change If this situation weighs on your life right now. If you feel capable of making it evolve.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Your reading of this distance- The way you explain the current distance in your couple, before the test tells you anything. This section does not measure any difficulty and does not produce a level: it collects a starting reading.
- ●Residual intimacy- What remains of the intimate connection between you: tenderness, desire, spontaneous moments of closeness.
- ●Shared projects- What you are building (or not) together: life projects, shared desires, vision of a shared future.
- ●Complicity- What connects you in daily life: shared looks, humor, trust, feeling like a team.
- ●Settled distance- What has drifted apart: feeling like strangers under the same roof, hollow conversations, presence without connection.
- ●Readiness to Change- Your starting point in this situation, read apart from the rest of the report: what you acknowledge about it today and the wish to see it evolve don't always move at the same pace.
Reference frameworks and authors
This test explores your perception of your relationship as it is today. It doesn't say whether your relationship can be saved — it puts words on what you feel, so you can decide what comes next with more clarity.
Why take this test?
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This test looks at what remains alive in the relationship, beyond the organization of daily life. The report separates what is still alive from what has drifted away: the tenderness and the desire still there, what is being built together or no longer at all, everyday complicity, and the distance that no event explains.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Your reading of this distance, Residual intimacy, Shared projects, Complicity, Settled distance. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Your reading of this distance
The way you explain the current distance in your couple, before the test tells you anything. This section does not measure any difficulty and does not produce a level: it collects a starting reading.
Residual intimacy
What remains of the intimate connection between you: tenderness, desire, spontaneous moments of closeness.
Shared projects
What you are building (or not) together: life projects, shared desires, vision of a shared future.
Complicity
What connects you in daily life: shared looks, humor, trust, feeling like a team.
Settled distance
What has drifted apart: feeling like strangers under the same roof, hollow conversations, presence without connection.
Readiness to Change
Your starting point in this situation, read apart from the rest of the report: what you acknowledge about it today and the wish to see it evolve don't always move at the same pace.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Your reading of this distance, Residual intimacy, Shared projects, Complicity, Settled distance. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Your reading of this distance, Residual intimacy, Shared projects…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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