Do I Have a Fear of Intimacy? — Relationship Test
Exploring your relationship with emotional closeness and vulnerability
Detailed report (interpreted score, radar chart, clinical frameworks, action plan) available after the test, for €2.99.
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- ✓Analysis of each dimension
- ✓Detailed radar chart
- ✓Personalized recommendations
- ✓Resources and exercises
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The Do I Have a Fear of Intimacy? — Relationship Test is a 64-question self-assessment measuring 5 key dimensions. Avoiding vulnerability, needing to control distance, fear of losing yourself in a relationship, self-sabotage: this test explores the mechanisms that can make emotional intimacy difficult. After completing it you get an instant overview, then a detailed PDF report (€2.99): scores per dimension, a radar chart and a personalized action plan. This tool is for self-knowledge and does not replace a professional consultation.
About this test
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Emotional intimacy — feeling truly close, vulnerable, known by someone — is both deeply desired and potentially frightening. This fear is not always conscious. It can manifest as a tendency to keep distance, to minimise emotions, to leave relationships when they become too close, or to sabotage bonds at the moment they become solid. This test explores four dimensions: avoidance of vulnerability (what you do when someone gets too close), control of distance (how you manage closeness and distance), fear of fusion (fear of losing your individuality in a relationship), and sabotage (behaviours that push away those who become too important). This is not a judgement — it is an exploration. Fear of intimacy is very common, often inherited from early relational history, and can evolve with support.
Dimensions assessed
- ●Vulnerability avoidance- Tendency to protect yourself emotionally by staying guarded, minimising your emotions, or avoiding self-disclosure even in close relationships.
- ●Distance control- How you manage closeness and distance in your relationships: needing a buffer, reactions when someone gets too close, tendency to decompress after intense connection.
- ●Fear of merger- Fear of losing your identity, independence, or freedom in a romantic relationship. Feeling that love is a form of absorption.
- ●Relational self-sabotage- Behaviours — often unconscious — that push the other person away at the moment the relationship solidifies: provocation, sudden coldness, flight, criticism, devaluing the bond.
- ●Readiness to act- Measures your current readiness to become aware of what you are experiencing and to explore your relationship with intimacy.
Why take this test?
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Personal development relies on deep self-knowledge: your values, emotional intelligence, resilience, and self-confidence. Assessing these dimensions gives you a clear roadmap for growth and achieving your life goals.
The Do I Have a Fear of Intimacy? — Relationship Test specifically evaluates 5 key dimensions: Vulnerability avoidance, Distance control, Fear of merger, Relational self-sabotage, Readiness to act. With 64 carefully crafted questions, it provides a detailed and nuanced picture of your psychological profile in this area. The test takes approximately 15 min and can be completed at your own pace, from any device.
Whether you’re seeking personal development, considering therapy, or simply curious about yourself, this test gives you concrete and actionable results to move forward with confidence.
Daily-life situations this test explores
To help you picture what to expect before you start, here are the concrete contexts the Do I Have a Fear of Intimacy? — Relationship Test sheds light on. This is not the list of questions (you discover them when you start the test) — it is the life situations it assesses.
In your life choices
How you make important decisions: listening to your values or following others’ expectations, projecting far or staying in survival mode.
Facing failure or setback
Your ability to bounce back: inner narratives, resources you mobilize, time to recover, lessons you draw from it.
In social relationships
Ease in connecting, setting limits, receiving a compliment, refusing a request without guilt.
In self-knowledge
Clarity on your needs, emotions, strengths and shadow areas; ability to observe yourself without judgment.
The actual questions are not shown here: you discover them when you start the test.
How does it work?
Take the test
Answer the 64 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 15 min.
See your preview
Once you finish, you immediately see a preview of your overall score and profile by dimension — no registration required.
Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does the Do I Have a Fear of Intimacy? — Relationship Test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Vulnerability avoidance, Distance control, Fear of merger, Relational self-sabotage, Readiness to act. Each dimension is scored individually, giving you a detailed view of your profile rather than a single overall number.
How long does the Do I Have a Fear of Intimacy? — Relationship Test take?
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The test contains 64 questions and takes approximately 15 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report (18 pages) with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations is available for €2.99.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This test is based on established models in clinical psychology and psychometrics. It evaluates 5 dimensions (Vulnerability avoidance, Distance control, Fear of merger...) using validated assessment scales. However, it is a self-assessment tool and does not replace a professional clinical diagnosis.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your Do I Have a Fear of Intimacy? — Relationship Test report includes: your overall score with detailed interpretation, individual analysis of each of the 5 dimensions, a radar chart visualizing your profile, personalized recommendations for improvement, practical exercises, and additional resources.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is the Do I Have a Fear of Intimacy? — Relationship Test for?
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This test is designed for any adult wishing to better understand their functioning in this area, whether out of curiosity, as part of a self-knowledge journey or to prepare a conversation with a professional. It is not a clinical diagnostic tool and does not replace a specialist consultation.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake the Do I Have a Fear of Intimacy? — Relationship Test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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Your report offers a clinical reading of your profile with concrete recommendations. You can use it as material for personal reflection, to open a conversation with someone close to you, or take it to a professional (psychologist, therapist, doctor) to enrich the consultation with a structured view of your dimensions.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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