How Do We Handle Our Arguments? Test
My conflict style and our way of repairing
Detailed report (interpreted score, radar chart, clinical frameworks, action plan) available after the test, for €2.99.
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Your report includes
- ✓Overall score with interpretation
- ✓Analysis of each dimension
- ✓Detailed radar chart
- ✓Personalized recommendations
- ✓Resources and exercises
- ✓Our questions, your answers
- ✓PDF book included : « The Practical CBT Guide »
- ✓Option to leave a review
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The How Do We Handle Our Arguments? is a 64-question self-assessment measuring 5 key dimensions. Explore how you handle arguments in your couple — conflict style, escalation, repair, and impact on the relationship. After completing it you get an instant overview, then a detailed PDF report (€2.99): scores per dimension, a radar chart and a personalized action plan. This tool is for self-knowledge and does not replace a professional consultation.
About this test
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This test explores your experience of arguments in your couple — not to assess the severity of your conflicts, but to better understand your personal style and the patterns that repeat. It draws on Gottman's work on couple conflict.
Dimensions assessed
- ●Conflict style- Your personal way of approaching moments of disagreement — without judgment on the chosen style.
- ●Escalation & de-escalation- How much arguments intensify or, conversely, stay regulated, from your own perspective.
- ●Repair- The ability to repair and restore connection after a conflict — what Gottman identifies as one of the most protective dynamics in a couple.
- ●Frequency & impact- The perceived frequency of arguments and their impact on your well-being and the relationship — without alarm, just your experience.
- ●Readiness to act- Your current relationship with the idea of evolving this dynamic in your couple.
Why take this test?
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Personal development relies on deep self-knowledge: your values, emotional intelligence, resilience, and self-confidence. Assessing these dimensions gives you a clear roadmap for growth and achieving your life goals.
The How Do We Handle Our Arguments? specifically evaluates 5 key dimensions: Conflict style, Escalation & de-escalation, Repair, Frequency & impact, Readiness to act. With 64 carefully crafted questions, it provides a detailed and nuanced picture of your psychological profile in this area. The test takes approximately 15-20 min and can be completed at your own pace, from any device.
Whether you’re seeking personal development, considering therapy, or simply curious about yourself, this test gives you concrete and actionable results to move forward with confidence.
Daily-life situations this test explores
To help you picture what to expect before you start, here are the concrete contexts the How Do We Handle Our Arguments? sheds light on. This is not the list of questions (you discover them when you start the test) — it is the life situations it assesses.
In your life choices
How you make important decisions: listening to your values or following others’ expectations, projecting far or staying in survival mode.
Facing failure or setback
Your ability to bounce back: inner narratives, resources you mobilize, time to recover, lessons you draw from it.
In social relationships
Ease in connecting, setting limits, receiving a compliment, refusing a request without guilt.
In self-knowledge
Clarity on your needs, emotions, strengths and shadow areas; ability to observe yourself without judgment.
The actual questions are not shown here: you discover them when you start the test.
How does it work?
Take the test
Answer the 64 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 15-20 min.
See your preview
Once you finish, you immediately see a preview of your overall score and profile by dimension — no registration required.
Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does the How Do We Handle Our Arguments? measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Conflict style, Escalation & de-escalation, Repair, Frequency & impact, Readiness to act. Each dimension is scored individually, giving you a detailed view of your profile rather than a single overall number.
How long does the How Do We Handle Our Arguments? take?
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The test contains 64 questions and takes approximately 15-20 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report (18 pages) with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations is available for €2.99.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This test is based on established models in clinical psychology and psychometrics. It evaluates 5 dimensions (Conflict style, Escalation & de-escalation, Repair...) using validated assessment scales. However, it is a self-assessment tool and does not replace a professional clinical diagnosis.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your How Do We Handle Our Arguments? report includes: your overall score with detailed interpretation, individual analysis of each of the 5 dimensions, a radar chart visualizing your profile, personalized recommendations for improvement, practical exercises, and additional resources.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is the How Do We Handle Our Arguments? for?
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This test is designed for any adult wishing to better understand their functioning in this area, whether out of curiosity, as part of a self-knowledge journey or to prepare a conversation with a professional. It is not a clinical diagnostic tool and does not replace a specialist consultation.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake the How Do We Handle Our Arguments? as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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Your report offers a clinical reading of your profile with concrete recommendations. You can use it as material for personal reflection, to open a conversation with someone close to you, or take it to a professional (psychologist, therapist, doctor) to enrich the consultation with a structured view of your dimensions.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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