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Relationship Red Flags: How Many Does Mine Show?
63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 14 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
Good morning,
This test looks at your partner's behavior, not at your own. It helps to name four aspects of what you observe: the respect for your limits and your refusals, the way exchanges unfold, the movements of control or of isolation, and the gap between promises and actions. The report describes each of these aspects.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book Breaking Free from Toxic Relationships, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
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Relationship Red Flags: How Many Does Mine Show? — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at your partner's behavior, not your own: respect for your limits, how exchanges unfold, control or isolation, promises against actions. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 14 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This interactive test covers limits, control, isolation, jealousy, autonomy, money, devaluation, humiliation, doubting your own perception, reversal of responsibility, lying, repair, coercive control, hypervigilance, and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Limits Whether your refusals are ignored as soon as they get in the way. Whether your "no" is accepted without insistence, the first time. Control Whether your phone is looked through without anyone asking you. Whether you are consulted before decisions that concern you, a purchase, a weekend. Isolation Whether you hear repeated negative remarks about your friends and your family. Whether your ties with your friends and your family have stayed as alive as before. Jealousy Whether jealousy surfaces over a simple message or a look. Whether you are unreachable for an hour without it being a problem. Autonomy Whether you have to account for your hours and your movements. Whether you stick to what you had planned to do this weekend. Money Whether every decision you make on your own, an outing, a purchase, requires justification. Whether you manage your money and your purchases without anyone commenting on them. Devaluation Whether the criticism targets who you are more than what you have done. Whether your tears or your anger are received as legitimate. Humiliation Whether you are spoken about badly in front of friends or family. Whether their humor stays free of hurt, even in front of friends. Doubting your own perception Whether what you have seen or heard is declared false. Whether you get to the end of your sentences when you speak. Reversal of responsibility Whether you end up apologizing even though you have done nothing. Whether their share of responsibility is owned, out loud. Lying Whether things you have seen with your own eyes are denied. Whether, when a change is promised, it really happens within the month. Repair Whether they act as if nothing happened, without ever making amends. Whether a visible change follows the apologies, in the weeks that follow. Coercive control Whether leaving the house feels difficult to you, even risky. Whether a limit set once holds for months. Hypervigilance Whether you walk on eggshells in the evening to avoid a reaction. Whether your evenings alone or with your friends are respected. Readiness to change Whether what you are observing weighs on your life right now. Whether you are ready to take a step to protect yourself.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Your reading of what you have just described about your relationship- The way you explain what you have just described about your relationship, before the test tells you anything. This section does not measure any difficulty and does not produce a level: it collects a starting reading.
- ●Respect for limits- Whether your physical, emotional and personal limits are respected — or regularly crossed.
- ●Toxic communication- Contempt, humiliation, gaslighting, blame, shouting — patterns that damage rather than connect.
- ●Control and isolation- Surveillance, jealousy, restrictions on freedom, isolation from loved ones — patterns that narrow your world.
- ●Consistency: words and actions- Whether promises and apologies are followed by real, lasting change — or by the same patterns.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the situation and take steps.
Reference frameworks and authors
This test is an early-warning awareness tool built around the four most documented categories of relationship red flags: violation of limits, toxic communication, control and isolation, and cycle of promises without change. It is not a validated psychometric instrument and does not constitute a clinical assessment of domestic violence or psychological abuse. If you are concerned about your safety, please contact a specialized service.
Why take this test?
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This test looks at your partner's behavior, not at your own. It helps to name four aspects of what you observe: the respect for your limits and your refusals, the way exchanges unfold, the movements of control or of isolation, and the gap between promises and actions. The report describes each of these aspects.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Your reading of what you have just described about your relationship, Respect for limits, Toxic communication, Control and isolation, Consistency: words and actions. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Your reading of what you have just described about your relationship
The way you explain what you have just described about your relationship, before the test tells you anything. This section does not measure any difficulty and does not produce a level: it collects a starting reading.
Respect for limits
Whether your physical, emotional and personal limits are respected — or regularly crossed.
Toxic communication
Contempt, humiliation, gaslighting, blame, shouting — patterns that damage rather than connect.
Control and isolation
Surveillance, jealousy, restrictions on freedom, isolation from loved ones — patterns that narrow your world.
Consistency: words and actions
Whether promises and apologies are followed by real, lasting change — or by the same patterns.
Readiness to Change
Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the situation and take steps.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Your reading of what you have just described about your relationship, Respect for limits, Toxic communication, Control and isolation, Consistency: words and actions. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Your reading of what you have just described about your relationship, Respect for limits, Toxic communication…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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