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Should I Leave? A Test to Help You See Clearly
67 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 14 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
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This test looks at questioning a relationship. It sets out four aspects: the satisfaction felt day to day, the respect for your fundamental needs, what the idea of picturing yourself five or ten years from now produces, and the energy that staying takes from you. The report describes each of these aspects, point by point.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 67 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book Saving Your Relationship, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
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Should I Leave? A Test to Help You See Clearly — a 67-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at questioning a relationship: day-to-day satisfaction, respect for your needs, how you picture the future, and the cost of staying. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 14 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers the relationship, attachment, loneliness, boundaries, identity, the future, plans, conflict, guilt, rumination, tiredness, separation and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example The relationship If, when you think about your relationship, the dominant feeling is heaviness or sadness. If, despite the difficulties, you still feel something alive in this relationship. Attachment If you stay in this relationship mainly out of habit or fear, rather than genuine desire. If, despite the difficulties, you still feel a real connection that makes you want to put in the effort. Loneliness If you often feel lonely even when you are together. If you feel little seen or understood by your partner. Boundaries If you hide or minimize your real needs to avoid triggering conflict. If you keep certain desires to yourself, for fear of your partner's reaction. Identity If you feel you have lost a part of who you are since being in this relationship. If you feel reduced to a role in this relationship, rather than seen as a whole person. The future If, when you picture yourself in 5 years with them, you feel no enthusiasm. If, when you imagine a fulfilling future life, your partner's place in it feels uncertain. Plans If you have no shared projects that genuinely engage you. If the projects you make alone excite you more than those you make with them. Conflict If disagreements on essential matters remain unresolved. If you keep revisiting the same arguments without them ever being truly resolved. Guilt If you feel guilty at the idea of leaving, even when you are unhappy. If you stay partly out of fear of hurting them, or out of pity. Rumination If this relationship occupies your thoughts in an intrusive way — you often go around in circles. If the question of leaving or staying has taken up a large space in your mind for some time. Tiredness If maintaining this relationship demands a lot of mental and emotional energy. If you feel exhausted more often than joyful at the idea of spending time together. Separation If the idea of resuming a life on your own seems less frightening than it used to. If the idea of leaving this relationship is both a relief and a source of fear. Readiness to change If what you just described has a real impact on your life. If you want to evolve the way you function.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Where your questioning comes from- This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it gathers what, in your view, is driving you to question your relationship, before the test looks at the other four dimensions.
- ●Overall satisfaction- Your dominant feeling in the relationship: joy, lightness, heaviness, lack of desire to continue.
- ●Respect for your needs- How far your fundamental needs — affection, security, autonomy, recognition — are met in this relationship.
- ●Vision of the future- What you feel when you picture yourself in 5 or 10 years with this person.
- ●Emotional cost of staying- The energy you spend maintaining this relationship, and the emotional weight it represents.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to explore what you feel and to make your situation evolve.
Reference frameworks and authors
This test is a personal clarification tool built from dimensions explored in the literature on relationship satisfaction and romantic questioning. It is not a validated psychometric instrument. It helps you name what you feel across several dimensions — it cannot decide for you, and it never will. High scores signal the intensity of questioning, not an answer.
Why take this test?
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This test looks at questioning a relationship. It sets out four aspects: the satisfaction felt day to day, the respect for your fundamental needs, what the idea of picturing yourself five or ten years from now produces, and the energy that staying takes from you. The report describes each of these aspects, point by point.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Where your questioning comes from, Overall satisfaction, Respect for your needs, Vision of the future, Emotional cost of staying. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Where your questioning comes from
This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it gathers what, in your view, is driving you to question your relationship, before the test looks at the other four dimensions.
Overall satisfaction
Your dominant feeling in the relationship: joy, lightness, heaviness, lack of desire to continue.
Respect for your needs
How far your fundamental needs — affection, security, autonomy, recognition — are met in this relationship.
Vision of the future
What you feel when you picture yourself in 5 or 10 years with this person.
Emotional cost of staying
The energy you spend maintaining this relationship, and the emotional weight it represents.
Readiness to Change
Measures your current readiness to explore what you feel and to make your situation evolve.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 67 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Where your questioning comes from, Overall satisfaction, Respect for your needs, Vision of the future, Emotional cost of staying. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 67 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Where your questioning comes from, Overall satisfaction, Respect for your needs…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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