Do I Have Trust Issues in My Relationship? Quiz

This interactive test covers trust, hypervigilance, anticipation, rumination, checking, control, abandonment, secrecy, shame, rejection, support, attachment, separation, the relationship and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Trust If you live with a background fear of a betrayal or a departure from one day to the next. If you trust on word alone, without guarantees. Hypervigilance If you watch for signs that something is off, down to a silence at dinner. If you feel at ease without having to keep track of their schedule. Anticipation If, when the other person is late, your mind goes to the worst. If, in the moment, you can tell an intuition from a fear. Rumination If your head manufactures scenarios in the evening, without your asking. If you can spend an entire evening without knowing where he or she is. Checking If you need to verify a piece of information yourself before believing it. If you can bear not knowing everything about their days. Control If you have looked at their phone, their outings or their accounts. If their private life, messages, and friends leave you at peace. Abandonment If a silence between two of their messages worries you. If you can let them have a weekend with friends without the anxiety rising. Secrecy If you hide what you feel in the evening so as to give no purchase. If you can name a fear to the other, out loud, without shame. Shame If you doubt anyone could love you seeing you as you are on waking. If you allow yourself to be clumsy in front of the other, at the table as in bed. Rejection If you fear that, once he or she gets to know you better, he or she will leave. If, with this person, you feel emotionally safe. Support If you would rather look solid than fragile, even on a bad-news day. If you can go through a bad week without carrying it all alone. Attachment If, in this relationship, you hold on to reflexes you learned in an earlier relationship. If your history leaves you free, today. Separation If, when he or she comes home later than planned, an old story comes back to you before any explanation. If you approach this relationship without the shadow of the previous ones. The relationship If you see the tension it creates at home, without being able to do without it. If this person deserves an untouched chance, as on day one. Readiness to change If what you have just described weighs on your life as a couple. If you want to change the way you function, and you believe you are capable of it.