Is My Child Resilient? — Parenting Assessment

This test covers hope, failure, shame, support, judgment, attachment, recognition, avoidance, perseverance, frustration, boundaries, personal standards, control, anticipation and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Hope If, in a situation that turns out badly, your child considers everything lost. If your child looks ahead with positive prospects even after a difficult period. Failure If your child blames themselves excessively when something does not work out. If your child bounces back after a failure or disappointment without it weighing on them for long. Shame If your child hides their vulnerability because they feel ashamed of it. If, faced with a limit, your child acknowledges it without diminishing themselves. Support If your child keeps their difficulties to themselves rather than asking for help. If, when things go wrong for them, your child comes to find you. Judgment If your child stays fixed on their initial impression of a friend, whatever happens. If your child can consider another way of looking at the same situation. Attachment If your child struggles to find a place — at home, in their room, at a club — where they feel safe. If your child feels unconditionally loved, even when they make mistakes. Recognition If your child recognizes encouragement only when it is put into words. If your child feels valued for who they are, not only for their results. Avoidance If your child drops their usual activities as soon as a stressful period arrives. If your child faces a difficult situation even when they are afraid of failing. Perseverance If your child stops trying right away as soon as something resists them. If your child learns something from failed attempts without giving up entirely. Frustration If your child flares up or gives up right away as soon as an obstacle appears. If, faced with an annoying detail, your child stays focused on their project. Boundaries If your child drains their energy for lack of knowing when to stop and rest. If your child organizes themselves to cope with a difficult period — prioritizing, managing time, pacing themselves. Personal standards If your child pays attention only to major achievements and lets small progress go unnoticed. If your child draws on past successes to find the confidence to keep going. Control If your child stubbornly sticks to the same approach when something is not working. If your child accepts not always being in control of the outcome. Anticipation If your child dramatizes difficult situations instead of seeing them as a normal part of life. If your child distinguishes between a passing problem and something permanent. Readiness to change If the way your child gets through difficulties has a real impact on their wellbeing or your family life right now. If you want to change the way you respond to this situation.