Does my child show oppositional behaviors?

This test covers rules, listening, anger, violence, frustration, conflict, repair, responsibility, boundaries, dialogue, control, rejection, commitments and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Rules If your child follows basic household rules — mealtimes, bedtime, tidying up — without needing to be told twice. If your child opposes rules set at school or in other settings such as a grandparents' home or an after-school activity. Listening If your child often says 'no' or 'I don't want to' before even hearing the full instruction. If your child deliberately ignores an adult's request, even after several reminders. Anger If your child becomes angry when a rule, a limit or a refusal does not suit them. If your child's anger episodes stay rare and tied to specific situations. Violence If your child's anger is directed at objects, throwing or hitting furniture or doors. If your child has no physical aggression — hitting, biting, pushing — during anger episodes. Frustration If your child has difficulty moving on after experiencing a frustration or a refusal. If your child continues to express frustration long after a conflict has ended. Conflict If your child's opposition regularly creates family conflicts that are hard to resolve. If your child moves on without resentment towards an adult after a conflict. Repair If your child acknowledges their mistakes and apologizes when the situation is clear. If your child hides belongings or sabotages things after a conflict. Responsibility If your child blames others — parents, siblings, teachers — for their own mistakes or behavior. If, after an anger episode, your child resumes activities as if nothing happened, without acknowledging the impact. Boundaries If your child seems to test boundaries intentionally to see how far they can go. If your child systematically challenges adult decisions, even those made for their safety. Dialogue If discussions with your child about a rule or refusal are settled in a few words. If your child argues endlessly to have the last word, even on unimportant matters. Control If your child persists until adults are exhausted in order to get what they want, even in the face of a firm refusal. If your child plays adults off against each other to get what they want — one says yes, the other says no. Rejection If your child interprets any refusal as a punishment or as a lack of love from adults. If your child reacts very badly to criticism, even when it is phrased kindly. Commitments If your child keeps the promises of good behavior they made to get something. If your child appears to accept a rule but then finds a workaround shortly after. Readiness to change If you want to take action to better support your child in this area. If the oppositional behaviors you observe in your child have a real impact on your family life right now.