Does My Child Have Good Social Skills? — Parent Test

This test covers dialogue, listening, speaking your mind, isolation, confidence, attachment, support, affection, boundaries, conflict, repair, remorse, rules, empathy and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Dialogue If your child asks other people questions in order to get to know them. If your child brings back to themselves whatever friends tell them. Listening If your child tries to understand the other person's point of view in a conflict. If your child values other people's contributions, not only their own. Speaking your mind If your child can say they disagree without breaking off the relationship. If your child expresses disagreement in a blunt or hurtful way. Isolation If your child struggles to fit into a group that has already formed. If your child can join a game or a conversation without waiting to be invited. Confidence If your child does not wait to feel perfect before going toward others. If your child is at ease in an unfamiliar social setting, such as a camp, a club or a party. Attachment If your child loses touch with friends as soon as they stop seeing them daily. If your child gets back in touch after a break, such as a new school year, a school break or a move. Support If your child can be there for a friend going through a difficult time. If your child agrees to help a classmate without expecting anything in return. Affection If your child makes spontaneous gestures of friendship, such as a message, a gift or an invitation. If your child expresses gratitude toward their friends. Boundaries If your child can set a limit in a friendship if something hurts them. If your child resists group pressure even when it goes against their values. Conflict If your child reacts on the spot in a conflict, without stepping back. If your child knows how to leave an awkward social situation without more tension. Repair If your child offers to mend things after a falling-out rather than waiting. If your child goes back to a friend after a disagreement or a falling-out. Remorse If your child finds it hard to apologize when they have been in the wrong. If your child acknowledges their share of responsibility in a conflict. Rules If your child respects a group's shared rules even when they are inconvenient. If your child knows how to give way in turn in a game or an activity. Empathy If your child leaves aside children who seem alone or left out. If your child stands up for someone unfairly attacked or left out. Readiness to change If your child's relationships with other children affect their wellbeing or your family life. If you feel ready to explore what could support your child's social skills.