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Hello Emma,

Overall result

Moderate emotional dependency

This illustrative profile describes tendencies toward emotional dependency of varying intensity but broadly manageable: a marked need for approval and a tendency to erase yourself, tempered by a more moderate relationship to solitude and fear of abandonment. This is not a diagnosis, but the description of a relational mode in which your sense of self-worth leans heavily on others' regard and attachment. The coherence of the axes traces a single movement: preserving the bond by forgetting yourself a little. The good news, visible in this profile, is that your ability to bear solitude remains intact — a real foothold. The most fruitful lever is to rebuild an internal source of worth, less dependent on approval: naming and then voicing your own needs, and cultivating times of nourishing solitude, so that relationships are lived out of desire rather than need.

Your profile at a glance

Fear ofabandonmentNeed forapprovalDifficulty withsolitudeSelf-erasure

Detailed analysis

Fear of abandonmentModerate

This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.

You have some abandonment anxieties that show up in specific contexts.

Your answers point to manifestations that are present but contained on fear of abandonment. The moderate level typically reflects activation at times, often tied to identifiable triggers (stressful situations, relational conflicts, periods of fatigue or isolation). At this stage, the dimension is not dominant in how you function, but it deserves observation: the main risk with the moderate level is that it worsens through accumulation. Concretely, watching the frequency rather than the intensity of an isolated episode gives a truer picture of how things are evolving: it is repetition, more than occasional strength, that tips the moderate toward the marked. Keeping a regular check-in (a brief journal, a conversation with someone you trust) can help you anticipate. Identifying two or three recurring triggers and preparing a simple response in advance — a pause, a phone call, a soothing activity — reduces the chance that the dimension settles in. If other dimensions shift in parallel, this one can become more salient through a cumulative effect; and if these manifestations gain ground despite your efforts, talking about it early with a professional is in no way excessive — it is often at this stage that support is most effective and shortest.

Recommendations

  • Identify the situations that trigger your fear of abandonment.
  • Communicate your need for reassurance to your partner.
  • Work on confidence in yourself and in your relationships.
Need for approvalHigh

This tendency is clear in you — here is what it reveals, to understand and move forward.

Your need for approval is significant and affects your autonomy.

Your answers describe a marked trait on need for approval. At this level, the dimension can sustain itself through self-reinforcing mechanisms (avoidance, narrowed attention, or rumination), whose exact form depends on the dimension concerned. This trait typically shows up in several everyday contexts, not only in exceptional situations. Understanding the self-reinforcing mechanism is often the key: for example, avoiding a situation brings short-term relief but confirms to the brain that it was dangerous, which strengthens avoidance the next time. Spotting this kind of loop in your own daily life — without judging yourself — is already a lever for change, because you can only act on what you have first identified. It may interact with other high dimensions of the profile — for instance by worsening the sense of overload or by limiting the resources available to cope. It can be helpful to talk about it with a professional (psychologist, doctor) to explore in more detail what is at play and identify levers for action; structured approaches such as cognitive and behavioural therapies work precisely on these chains, through small concrete and realistic steps rather than willpower alone.

Recommendations

  • Work on your self-esteem independently of others' regard.
  • Practise activities that strengthen your inner confidence.
  • Support can help you free yourself from this need.
Difficulty with solitudeModerate

This tendency is present in you — here is what it sheds light on.

You alternate between moments of solitude and a need for company without major difficulty.

Your answers describe a fairly balanced relationship to solitude: you alternate between moments of withdrawal and a need for company without either one becoming a problem. The moderate level indicates that solitude is tolerable — it may generate some discomfort at times, without tipping into the anxiety of emptiness that characterises more marked forms of emotional dependency. One reading — to weigh against your own experience — is that this capacity to be alone is a protective resource within the profile as a whole: it tempers the need for approval and the tendency to erase yourself noted elsewhere, by offering a space where your worth does not depend on the other's presence. The lever for consolidating this is to actively cultivate moments of chosen, nourishing solitude (an activity, a solitary pleasure): the more solitude becomes a positive time rather than a lack, the more relationships are lived out of desire rather than need.

Recommendations

  • Maintain this balance between solitude and socialising.
  • Develop activities you enjoy doing on your own.
  • Listen to your needs of the moment without guilt.
Self-erasureHigh

This tendency is clear in you — here is what it reveals, to understand and move forward.

You have a strong tendency to erase yourself for the benefit of others.

Your high score describes a strong inclination to erase yourself for the benefit of others: putting their needs, wishes and opinions before your own, sometimes to the point of losing sight of what you truly want. Without judgement, this disposition often takes root in a commendable intention — preserving harmony, making yourself indispensable, earning attachment — but it has a cost. One reading hypothesis — to weigh against your experience — is that self-erasure interlocks with the need for approval: stepping back becomes a way of securing the bond and avoiding conflict or rejection, at the expense of your own needs. In the long run, this mechanism feeds a quiet resentment and an erosion of identity (you no longer quite know what you want). The central lever is to gradually reintroduce your needs into the equation: starting by naming them for yourself, then voicing them in low-stakes situations, and noticing that stating a need does not destroy the bond but makes it healthier.

Recommendations

  • Working on assertiveness is essential.
  • Reconnect with your own desires and preferences.
  • Support can help you find your voice again.

Profile synthesis

Your profile shows moderate manifestations. Some dimensions deserve attention without being alarming: they describe real but contained difficulties that do not yet occupy the centre of how you function. The moderate level is precisely the one where observation is most useful, because it can evolve in either direction depending on what is happening in your life. Spotting the contexts and moments when these dimensions intensify — fatigue, conflicts, overload, isolation — gives you concrete levers for acting early. Talking about it with someone you trust or with a professional, even without urgency, can help clarify what is at play and avoid a worsening through accumulation.

How your dimensions interact

Several dimensions show high scores at the same time (Need for approval, Self-erasure). These dimensions do not operate in a vacuum: they can reinforce one another, each sustaining the others in a loop that makes the picture heavier than the sum of its parts. The good news about this mechanism is that it also works the other way: targeted work on one of them, often the most accessible or the most overwhelming, can have positive knock-on effects on the others. It is precisely this kind of link that a professional can help untangle, so you can choose where to start rather than facing everything at once.

Your action plan

Right now

  • Need for approval — Work on your self-esteem independently of others' regard.
  • Need for approval — Practise activities that strengthen your inner confidence.
  • Self-erasure — Working on assertiveness is essential.
  • Self-erasure — Reconnect with your own desires and preferences.

In the coming weeks

  • Fear of abandonment — Identify the situations that trigger your fear of abandonment.
  • Difficulty with solitude — Maintain this balance between solitude and socialising.

In the long run

  • Retake this test in 3 to 6 months to measure your progress. Meaningful changes on the high dimensions are often visible over this timescale.
  • If you begin therapeutic work, identify together 1 to 2 priority dimensions rather than addressing everything at once — targeted work is more effective than global work.
  • Build a lasting support network: a health professional (psychologist, psychiatrist, GP), people around you, possibly a support group. Solidity comes from numbers and complementarity.
  • Take care of the physiological basics (sleep, nutrition, physical activity): they do not heal but they strongly condition your psychological availability for therapeutic work.

Avenues to explore

These are hypotheses, not conclusions. You are the one who knows whether they resonate.

It may be that you have developed a relational strategy in which pleasing others and gaining their approval has become an important priority for you. This dynamic may have settled in gradually, creating a pattern where your sense of personal worth depends more on others' regard than on your own criteria. In some people, this profile comes with a difficulty in expressing authentic needs for fear of displeasing—is that the case for you?

Check for yourself: Over a week, observe your interactions: note the moments when you said 'yes' while wanting to say 'no', or when you held back a personal opinion for fear of bothering. Ask yourself honestly: 'Did I really express what I truly thought, or what I believed the other person wanted to hear?'

One possible explanation is that you are going through a period where solitude generates moderate discomfort, less a phobia than a tendency to quickly seek company or contact to fill that void. This dynamic can be self-sustaining: the more you flee solitude, the less you learn to tolerate it, and the less you develop a peaceful relationship with yourself.

Check for yourself: Intentionally test a few moments alone (at least 30 minutes, no screen). Note precisely: at what point does the discomfort rise? What exactly do you feel—boredom, anxiety, sadness? Is it unbearable or simply unpleasant?

It may be that you have internalised a message (consciously or not) that your worth lies mainly in what you do for others, in your usefulness or adaptability, rather than in your simple existence. This pattern can create a form of self-erasure where your own needs become invisible or secondary.

Check for yourself: Think back to three recent situations where you erased yourself. For each one, ask yourself: 'Who benefited from my self-erasure? What would I have liked to do or say if I hadn't been afraid of bothering?' Was your fear real or anticipated?

One possible explanation is that a moderate fear of abandonment creates a relational vigilance: you stay attentive to the small signals of distancing or displeasure in others. This vigilance, though it theoretically protects you, can also be draining and create an anxious relationship to human connection—do you notice this tendency?

Check for yourself: Over two weeks, note the moments when you felt a distance with someone (real or perceived). What did you feel? Did you seek to clarify, or did you instead try to draw closer without asking? Was this fear justified after checking?

11 clinical reading frameworks are applied to your profile below — the exact number announced for this test.

Reading frameworks

Recognised clinical frameworks applied to your profile, as additional perspectives to weigh.

Attachment styleanxious

The profile reveals a marked preoccupation with approval (60%) and a moderate fear of abandonment (40%), characteristic of the anxious style, where the person constantly seeks to secure the relationship through conformity and adjustment. Self-erasure (60%) suggests a tendency to sacrifice one's own needs to maintain the connection, typical of this attachment pattern.

Cognitive patternCatastrophising

Fear of abandonment (40%) may come with an amplification of scenarios of rejection or separation, where the person anticipates the worst in relationships, even in the face of ambiguous signals.

Cognitive patternMind reading

The high need for approval (60%) may reflect a tendency to imagine others' negative judgements and to adapt one's behaviour based on these assumptions rather than on observed facts.

Early schemaAbandonment

Fear of abandonment (40%) and difficulty with solitude (40%) point toward a vulnerability to the abandonment schema, where the person dreads isolation and anticipates relational desertion.

Early schemaSubjugation

Self-erasure (60%) and the need for approval (60%) evoke a subjugation schema in which the person subordinates their own needs to those of others to preserve attachment and acceptance.

Attachment — Sources: John Bowlby (1969) ; Mary Ainsworth et al. (1978) ; Kim Bartholomew, Leonard Horowitz (1991)

Cognitive distortions — Sources: Aaron Beck (1976) ; David Burns (1980)

Young's schemas — Sources: Jeffrey Young (1990) ; Jeffrey Young, Janet Klosko, Marjorie Weishaar (2003)

Relationship models

Recognised couple/relationship frameworks applied to the relationship you described — as hypotheses to test against your experience, never as conclusions about the other person.

The 5 Love Languages (Chapman)

Your profile suggests a high need for approval and a marked self-erasure, which may shape the way you receive love: you may be particularly responsive to gestures of verbal recognition, to time spent together, or to your partner's attention. A gap between what you express (often self-erased) and what you hope to receive could create a mutual invisibility—do you recognise this dynamic?

Sources: Gary Chapman (1992)

FIRO (Schutz)

The need for approval and self-erasure you describe sometimes evoke a gap between what you *express* relationally (little self-assertion, a tendency to adapt) and what you *wish to receive* (recognition, inclusion, affection). This gap can stay invisible to your partner—do you feel your deeper needs are understood?

Sources: William Schutz (1958)

Johari Window

Self-erasure and the need for approval suggest a potentially large 'hidden area': many things you keep to yourself (true feelings, limits, aspirations) to preserve harmony. This area can grow over time, creating an emotional distance—is it relevant for you to explore what remains unsaid?

Sources: Joseph Luft, Harrington Ingham (1955)

Nonviolent Communication (Rosenberg)

Your profile suggests a difficulty in expressing your own needs (Need and Request within the NVC framework), often replaced by an adaptation to the other's needs. It may be that you observe and feel, but hesitate to name your needs clearly—practising that clarity without guilt could transform the relationship.

Sources: Marshall Rosenberg (2003)

Additional clinical frameworks

Recognised models for this domain, applied to your profile as hypotheses to weigh — not a diagnosis.

Models of personality

Big Five / FFM

This profile evokes a rather high tendency toward Agreeableness (need for approval, self-erasure) possibly combined with moderate to high Neuroticism (fear of abandonment, difficulty with solitude). It may be that you have a predisposition to adapt your behaviour to others' expectations and to feel relational anxiety: are you aware of this dynamic in your interactions?

Sources: Paul Costa, Robert McCrae (1992) ; Lewis Goldberg (1990) ; Lewis Goldberg (1999)

Alternative dimensional model (AMPD)

This picture suggests potential difficulties on the axis of relating to others (need to be validated, fear of being abandoned) and possibly on the axis of relating to oneself (self-erasure, a less assertive identity). These indicative profiles may reflect a relational dependency without necessarily constituting a pathology: what impact does this configuration have on your daily well-being and emotional autonomy?

Sources: American Psychiatric Association (2013)

These frameworks do not constitute a medical diagnosis.

Resources & exercise

7-day observation journal

Each day, spot one situation where “Need for approval” showed up. Note the automatic thought, the emotion (0–100) and what you did. Then write one more balanced, alternative reading. After 7 days, re-read your notes: the recurring patterns become visible — the first step to change them.

Support resources

If you are struggling, you are not alone. United States: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7). Elsewhere: find your local line at findahelpline.com. This report supports self-knowledge and does not replace a consultation with a psychologist or doctor.

Your answers in detail

1. I have an intense fear of being abandoned by the people I love.

Answer : Somewhat disagree

You answered "Somewhat disagree". Can you tell me a bit more about the moments when this comes up?

It mainly comes out in situations that matter to me, when I feel under pressure or emotionally involved.

2. I know how to leave a relationship that doesn't make me happy.

Answer : Somewhat agree

And how long have you noticed this?

It's been more present for a few months, even though I also recognise it from before.

3. When my partner is distant, I panic and fear the worst.

Answer : Somewhat disagree

4. I do everything to avoid a break-up, even if it means sacrificing my values.

Answer : Somewhat disagree

5. I feel secure in my relationship without needing to check constantly.

Answer : Somewhat agree

6. The end of a relationship feels like the worst thing that could happen to me.

Answer : Somewhat disagree

7. …

The next questions (7, 8…) continue in your test. This sample only shows the beginning — the full test has 60 questions, and every answer refines your report.

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