Emotional Dependency Test (Adult Attachment)

This interactive test addresses abandonment, the couple, separation, solitude, isolation, recognition, how others see you, judgement, doubt, checking, limits, speaking up, fairness, and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Abandonment Whether, when someone you feel close to pulls back, what runs through your mind is something like: they're drifting away. Whether, when someone close takes a while to reply, what comes to mind is something like: they must have things to do. The couple Whether, when you're afraid someone close is drifting away, you reach out again until you get an answer that reassures you. Whether, when a relationship becomes uncertain, you keep investing in it at the same pace rather than getting ahead of things. Separation Whether, when you have to decide something important on your own, you put off the moment until you can talk it over with someone. Whether you can go through a stretch without news from someone close and carry on with your days as usual. Solitude Whether a day with nothing planned and no one to see weighs on you from the morning on. Whether an evening spent on your own leaves you, the next morning, with the sense of having got something out of it. Isolation Whether, when you get home to an empty place, you switch on something that makes noise within the first minute. Whether your week moves along in much the same way whether or not there are people around you. Recognition Whether, after an evening out, you go back over what you said and how it was received. Whether a remark about your work leaves your body as settled as it was before you heard it. How others see you Whether, in a group where no one is speaking to you, what you say to yourself is something like: I'm taking up too much room here. Whether you accept invitations where you know no one, without looking for a reason to get out of them. Judgement Whether, when you sense disapproval in someone, your body tenses up and takes time to release. Whether, before speaking in front of several people, what comes to mind is something like: what I have to say is worth hearing. Doubt Whether uncertainty about what someone is telling you or keeping from you occupies your mind until you have the full story. Whether, when someone close changes their habits, what you say to yourself is something like: they'll tell me if there's a reason to. Checking Whether, once something is checked, you're at ease for a while, and then the question comes up again somewhere else. Whether, when a doubt sets in about someone close, you ask them openly rather than keeping it. Limits Whether, when unease rises as you're about to make a request, you give it up and make do with the situation. Whether, when a request costs you, you make it anyway and wait for the answer. Speaking up Whether, when about to ask someone close for something for yourself, what you say to yourself is something like: I have no business asking for that. Whether having said no to someone close leaves you at ease in the hours that follow. Fairness Whether, when an effort you've made goes unacknowledged, what you say to yourself is something like: after everything I've done, that's not much of a return. Whether, when an imbalance becomes apparent in a relationship, you say so in the moment rather than holding on to it. Readiness to change Whether what you've just described weighs on your relationships. Whether you want to change the way you function, and believe you're capable of it.