Being Disrespected Test: Are You Being Belittled?

63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 14 clinical frameworks·5 report sections

Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner

Good morning,

This test picks up the signs of disrespect through four aspects: the remarks that belittle, the efforts never acknowledged, the refusals that are not respected, and the accumulated effect on what you believe you are worth. The report focuses on the repetition more than on the isolated episode: it gives its frequency and the area where it concentrates.

What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.

How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report

The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.

We'd also suggest reading the book Breaking Free from Toxic Relationships, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.

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I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.

Gildas GARREC CBT Practitioner — Psychology & Serenity www.psychologieetserenite.com/en

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Being Disrespected Test: Are You Being Belittled? — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test picks up the signs of disrespect through four aspects, and counts the repetition rather than the isolated episode. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 14 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.

This test covers belittling, humiliation, judgment, comparison, recognition, listening, boundaries, control, speaking up, guilt, self-esteem, loneliness, mood and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Belittling If you are regularly put down or criticized, in private or in front of others. If, in your relationships, you feel respected and valued. Humiliation If you feel humiliated in certain interactions. If your looks, your tastes or your emotions are mocked. Judgment If comments are made that make you feel inferior or incompetent. If you are credited with negative intentions you do not have. Comparison If what you do is compared unfavourably to what others do. If what you succeed at goes unnoticed, what you fail at is pointed out at once. Recognition If your efforts are neither noticed nor acknowledged. If you are taken into account, and so is your point of view. Listening If you are listened to absent-mindedly, with no real interest in what you say. If you are interrupted or ignored as if you did not exist. Boundaries If your "no" is not respected. If your boundaries are respected. Control If you are presented with a done deal on decisions that concern you. If decisions are made for you without any regard for your opinion. Speaking up If you no longer dare to express what you think or feel. If you keep quiet to avoid comments or conflict. Guilt If you are made to feel guilty when you set a boundary. If you end up thinking that maybe you are the problem. Self-esteem If you have lost self-esteem in this relationship. If these situations do not undermine your self-confidence. Loneliness If you feel alone in the face of what you are going through. If you feel invisible, as if you do not count. Mood If these situations affect your mood or your sleep. If you feel drained or downcast after certain exchanges. Readiness to change If what you've just described has a real impact on your life and relationships. If you want to change the way you function.

About this test

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Dimensions assessed

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Your reading of this disrespect- How you explain this disrespect, before the test tells you anything. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it collects a starting impression.
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Being belittled and put down- Comments, mockery and contemptuous remarks that diminish your worth.
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Lack of recognition- Efforts, opinions and needs ignored; feeling invisible and that you do not matter.
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Boundaries crossed- Disregard for your "no", your time, your space and your decisions.
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Impact on self-esteem- The effect of disrespect: doubt, self-erasure, loss of confidence.
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Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of what you have experienced and engage in a process of reconstruction and healing.

Reference frameworks and authors

This test explores the subjective experience of disrespect in a relationship, without reference to a single validated clinical instrument.

Why take this test?

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The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Your reading of this disrespect, Being belittled and put down, Lack of recognition, Boundaries crossed, Impact on self-esteem. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.

Dimensions explored

These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.

Your reading of this disrespect

How you explain this disrespect, before the test tells you anything. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it collects a starting impression.

Being belittled and put down

Comments, mockery and contemptuous remarks that diminish your worth.

Lack of recognition

Efforts, opinions and needs ignored; feeling invisible and that you do not matter.

Boundaries crossed

Disregard for your "no", your time, your space and your decisions.

Impact on self-esteem

The effect of disrespect: doubt, self-erasure, loss of confidence.

Readiness to Change

Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of what you have experienced and engage in a process of reconstruction and healing.

How does it work?

Take the test

Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.

Proceed to payment

Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.

Download your detailed PDF report

For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.

Frequently Asked Questions

What does this test measure?

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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Your reading of this disrespect, Being belittled and put down, Lack of recognition, Boundaries crossed, Impact on self-esteem. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.

How long does this test take?

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The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.

How does this test work?

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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.

Is this test scientifically validated?

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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Your reading of this disrespect, Being belittled and put down, Lack of recognition…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.

What does the PDF report contain?

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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.

Is my data kept confidential?

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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.

Who is this test for?

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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.

Can I retake the test later?

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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.

What should I do with my results?

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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.

Can people close to me also take it?

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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.

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