Toxic Relationship Test: Am I in a Toxic Relationship?

This interactive test covers having your perception questioned, reversed responsibility, alternating kindness and harshness, devaluation, isolation, control, money, limits, repair, the threat of a breakup, humiliation, appearance, confidence, support and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Perception If words you said come back to you twisted, until you no longer recognize what you actually said. If, when you express unease or disagreement, this person listens to you and takes it into account. Reversed responsibility If, at the end of a discussion, whatever the original topic, you are the one who ends up held responsible. If, when this person needs something from you, they ask you for it clearly, without hints of guilt. Alternation If this person's kindness and harshness take turns from one day to the next, without you being able to guess what is coming. If, when something is wrong between you, this person talks to you about it honestly. Devaluation If, in front of other people, this person makes jokes about you, and the others laugh at you. If, without comparing you to others, this person accepts you as you are. Isolation If the friends you used to see before this relationship have disappeared from your life one after another. If, when your friends or family come over, this person welcomes them warmly. Control If, wherever you are, this person demands to know it. If you freely decide your own days and schedule, without having to account for them. Money If access to your own bank account is restricted for you, without that decision being yours. If decisions about shared money are made together, after a conversation where each of you can have a say. Limits If specific rules are imposed on you about what you are and are not allowed to do. If, when you ask for an evening to yourself, this person hears that need for space. Repair If, after an argument, this person carries on as if nothing had happened, without a word of apology. If a promise to change, made after an argument, then comes to nothing. The threat of a breakup If, to get something from you, even a small detail, this person threatens to end the relationship. If, according to this person, you would not find anyone else to accept you as you are. Humiliation If, in a tone meant to sound harmless, this person makes humiliating remarks about your worth. If, day to day, this person respects you, in words as well as in actions. Appearance If this person brings your looks into the conversation, whether in front of others or alone together. If this person decides for you how you are supposed to dress. Confidence If this person comes back, almost word for word, to the same remarks about what you supposedly got wrong. If, when you succeed at something, even something small, this person notices it and tells you so sincerely. Support If, by framing their help as an intrusion, this person discourages your circle from supporting you. If you can talk about your difficulties with someone you trust. Readiness to change If what you have just described weighs on your daily life. If you want to rebuild yourself and regain your balance.