63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 17 clinical frameworks·6 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
Good morning,
This test looks at codependency through four aspects: your own needs erased in favor of the other person's, the approval you need before you feel you belong, the line between your feelings and theirs gone blurred, and the urge to manage the other person's mood in the name of helping.
The report looks at one side of the tie only, yours.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book Emotional Dependency, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
Codependency Test — Do You Love Too Much? — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at codependency through four aspects, and accounts for what caring for others costs the person doing the caring. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 17 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers boundaries, speaking up, speaking your mind, tiredness, responsibility, empathy, control, guilt, self-esteem, recognition, support, plans, identity, anxiety and readiness to change.
What the test asks, for example
Boundaries
If you find it hard to enforce your boundaries when someone oversteps them.
If you protect your personal space and speak up when someone oversteps it.
Speaking up
If you say yes to requests you would rather decline, out of fear of disappointing others.
If you turn down situations that make you suffer, even at the risk of disappointing others.
Speaking your mind
If you adjust your personality depending on who you are with.
If you express your opinions even when they differ from those of the people around you.
Tiredness
If, even when you are exhausted, you find it hard to say no to a favor someone asks of you.
If you know how to say no when you are tired or worn out.
Responsibility
If you feel responsible for your partner's happiness.
If you let others face the consequences of their own actions.
Empathy
If you feel overwhelmed by other people's problems as if they were your own.
If you let others handle their own problems without getting involved when you are not asked to.
Control
If you try to know in detail what your partner is doing throughout the day.
If you trust others to carry out their plans in their own way, even when it differs from yours.
Guilt
If you feel guilty when you take time for yourself.
If you allow yourself to rest without waiting until you have done everything for others.
Self-esteem
If you do not feel worthy of love unless you do something to earn it.
If your worth does not depend on how others see you.
Recognition
If you need other people's approval to feel good about your decisions.
If you acknowledge your strengths just as easily as your flaws.
Support
If you feel useful only when you are helping others.
If you happily let others help you when you need it.
Plans
If you put off your own plans as soon as someone close to you needs you.
If you keep a life and interests of your own within your relationships.
Identity
If you lose your sense of identity in your close relationships.
If you clearly identify your own wishes, even when those of the people close to you are very present.
Anxiety
If you feel anxious when you cannot influence how things turn out.
If you calmly accept it when things do not go as you had planned.
Readiness to change
If what you've just described has a real impact on your life.
If you want to change the way you function.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
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Self-Sacrifice- Tendency to sacrifice yourself for others, to ignore your own needs, and to place others' well-being before your own.
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Control- Need to control situations and people, often under the guise of help or benevolence.
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Low Self-Esteem- Feeling of lacking personal worth, depending on others' validation to feel worthy.
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Blurred Boundaries- Difficulty setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, distinguishing your emotions from those of others.
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Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of this topic on your life and engage in a process of growth.
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Your reading of this devotion- The way you explain this devotion to others to yourself, before the test tells you anything at all. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it gathers a starting reading, because devoting yourself to others is not lived the same way depending on whether you trace it to childhood, to a particular relationship, or to your temperament.
Reference frameworks and authors
based on Adult romantic attachment (Hazan & Shaver, 1987)
Why take this test?
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This test looks at codependency through four aspects: your own needs erased in favor of the other person's, the approval you need before you feel you belong, the line between your feelings and theirs gone blurred, and the urge to manage the other person's mood in the name of helping.
The report looks at one side of the tie only, yours.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Self-Sacrifice, Control, Low Self-Esteem, Blurred Boundaries, Your reading of this devotion. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Self-Sacrifice
Tendency to sacrifice yourself for others, to ignore your own needs, and to place others' well-being before your own.
Control
Need to control situations and people, often under the guise of help or benevolence.
Low Self-Esteem
Feeling of lacking personal worth, depending on others' validation to feel worthy.
Blurred Boundaries
Difficulty setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, distinguishing your emotions from those of others.
Readiness to Change
Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of this topic on your life and engage in a process of growth.
Your reading of this devotion
The way you explain this devotion to others to yourself, before the test tells you anything at all. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it gathers a starting reading, because devoting yourself to others is not lived the same way depending on whether you trace it to childhood, to a particular relationship, or to your temperament.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
They took this test
★★★★★
“ I had no idea I was codependent. This test and its report taught me fundamental things about how I operate in a relationship. I was able to bring it up with my therapist. ”
— Agathe, January 2026
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Self-Sacrifice, Control, Low Self-Esteem, Blurred Boundaries, Your reading of this devotion. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Self-Sacrifice, Control, Low Self-Esteem…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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