Relationships & Attachment: Full Toxic Relationship Test

This interactive test covers attachment, abandonment, listening, speaking your mind, conflict, anger, repair, withdrawal, loneliness, tenderness, trust, jealousy, control, independence, boundaries, guilt, having your perception questioned, commitment, support and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Attachment If you dread the day your partner will see your flaws and leave. If you rely on your partner without fearing a departure from one day to the next. Abandonment If the fear of a breakup with your partner wakes you up at night. If you think you deserve a stable relationship, even on the days you are not doing well. Listening If you interrupt as soon as you disagree. If you put into your own words what your partner has just said. Speaking your mind If you wait for your partner to guess what you need, without telling them clearly. If you tell your partner what you need, in simple words. Conflict If, in the middle of an argument, you bring up an old grievance, even one settled long ago. If, during a disagreement about vacation plans, you look for an arrangement that suits each of you. Anger If, as soon as you are contradicted at the table, you raise your voice. If, even when angry, you keep the same tone as at the start. Repair If, after an argument, you slam the door or shut yourself away in a long silence. If, after an argument, you come back into the room to repair the bond. Withdrawal If, as soon as a discussion becomes difficult, you go silent and close off. If, in the evening, you talk about what hurt you rather than keeping it to yourself. Loneliness If, even within your relationship, loneliness dwells in you day to day. If, in a silence shared with your partner, you feel a connection between you. Tenderness If you don't dare say what you would like in bed or in terms of tenderness. If, on a difficult evening, you ask to be held. Trust If a delay or a deleted message makes you see a betrayal. If you believe in the faithfulness of the person you love, even when they are away. Jealousy If, when your partner laughs with an attractive person, jealousy rises in you. If you leave your partner's phone on the table and go about your business. Control If you need to know where your partner is throughout the day. If, when a worry rises, you manage it without checking your partner's messages. Independence If you organize your weeks and weekends around your partner, at the expense of your own plans. If you have activities and friends of your own, outside the relationship. Boundaries If, when your limit is crossed, you stay silent and let it go. If, when your limit is overstepped, you say so the same day. Guilt If you apologize at the end of an argument, even when you have done nothing. If you say no to a request without feeling guilty afterwards. Having your perception questioned If, after a discussion, you end up doubting your own memory. If, when something feels off, you trust what you feel. Commitment If you keep putting off the conversation about the future of your relationship. If, when you promise something to your partner, you follow through on it. Support If you are the one who handles the emotions and tensions in the relationship. If, on a hard evening, you can count on your partner, and they on you. Readiness to change If what you have just described weighs on your relationships. If you want to change the way you function day to day.