Gaslighting Test: are you being manipulated?

This test covers having your perception questioned, listening, blame reversal, guilt, responsibility, belittling, isolation, support, speaking up, confidence, judgment, memory, checking, lying and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Having your perception questioned If you doubt what you saw or heard after talking it over with this person. If, after an exchange, you stay sure of what you saw and heard. Listening If, when you describe what happened, you're told 'that's not how it was at all'. If your version of events is taken into account as much as theirs, even when you disagree. Blame reversal If your complaints are turned back on you ('you're the problem'). If, when you raise a grievance, the other person listens and acknowledges their share of responsibility. Guilt If, when a problem comes up, the responsibility always ends up landing on you. If you do not feel guilty for things you have not done. Responsibility If, when this person is in the wrong, they find a way to make you look like the one at fault. If, when you raise a problem, it is dealt with without your ending up apologizing. Belittling If you're labeled 'too sensitive', 'paranoid' or 'unstable'. If you are spoken of with respect to others (family, friends, colleagues). Isolation If you're made to feel that no one else would put up with you or believe you. If you feel free to see your friends and family without it being a problem. Support If others are led to believe you have a psychological problem, in order to discredit what you say. If you feel supported in what you're going through. Speaking up If you no longer dare to bring up what bothers you, for fear of being made fun of. If you feel free to voice a grievance without ending up apologizing on the other person's behalf. Confidence If you find it harder and harder to make decisions on your own. If you keep confidence in your own judgment. Judgment If you question your own feelings before you even express them. If you feel clear and at ease in the way you perceive situations. Memory If the past is rewritten in a way that doesn't match your memories. If your memory of events is not called into question when you report it. Checking If you're starting to write things down or keep evidence to be sure you're not 'making it up'. If you trust your memories without needing witnesses or proof to reassure you. Lying If you're told 'I never said that' when you're sure of the opposite. If what concerns you is told to you clearly, without later claims that it had already been said. Readiness to change If what you have experienced with gaslighting has a real impact on your life and well-being. If you believe you are capable of rebuilding and getting better.