Should You Get Back With Your Ex? — No Contact Test

This test covers longing, loneliness, jealousy, separation, control, urges, mood, rumination, self-esteem, the future, the relationship, conflict, listening, belittling and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Longing If what you miss most is being in a relationship rather than this person in particular. If you want to get back with your ex because you love them deeply, not just out of habit. Loneliness If loneliness scares you more than the idea of going back into a relationship that didn't fully suit you. If you feel capable of living a happy life even if your ex doesn't come back. Jealousy If you want to get your ex back mainly because the idea of them being with someone else is unbearable to you. If your desire to get back together stays stable whether your ex pays attention to you or not. Separation If your ex clearly told you they no longer wanted this relationship. If the breakup is tied to a specific, potentially resolvable reason (distance, timing, misunderstanding). Control If you've considered strategies to win them back (going silent, making them jealous, etc.). If you feel ready to respect a period of no contact if it could be beneficial, rather than trying to provoke a reaction. Urges If you've already contacted your ex impulsively (late-night messages, repeated calls). If late at night, when you feel lonely, you often give in to the urge to message your ex. Mood If your mood swings enormously from one moment to the next (hope, despair, anger, sadness). If you've found a certain balance again in your activities, work, and relationships since the breakup. Rumination If these days, most of your thoughts are devoted to your ex and your story. If you're able to calmly analyze the reasons for the breakup without being overwhelmed by emotions. Self-esteem If you often felt anxious or 'not good enough' in this relationship. If you could be yourself without fear of being judged or put down. The future If you're afraid you'll never find someone like your ex again. If you can picture your future with peace of mind, whether or not your ex is part of it. The relationship If looking back on your daily life as a couple, you'd say it was mostly tense. If, beyond the good memories, you genuinely felt fulfilled and like you were growing in this relationship. Conflict If, when a major disagreement came up in your relationship, it often escalated into conflict. If communication between you was smooth and constructive. Listening If your ex tended to minimize your emotions or your needs. If, in your relationship, your emotional needs were heard and taken into account as much as your ex's. Belittling If your ex has disrespected you in the past (insults, humiliation, repeated lies). If you felt fully respected in your relationship with your ex. Readiness to change If this breakup and what you are experiencing have a real impact on your life. If you believe you are capable of growing in this area.