Break-Up Test: What It Measures and How to Read Your Score

A break-up is one of the most painful experiences of adult life. Whether it is chosen or endured, it upends our emotional landmarks, our identity and our confidence in the future. This 30-question test explores four essential dimensions of the break-up process: romantic grief (the ability to accept the loss), self-esteem (the impact of the separation on your self-image), obsessive rumination (repetitive thoughts about your ex or the relationship) and rebuilding (the ability to project yourself into the future). The results will give you a precise map of your current emotional state and concrete avenues for moving forward in your healing.

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What the test measures

• The ability to accept the end of the relationship and go through the stages of grief (denial, anger, sadness, acceptance).
• The impact of the break-up on your self-image, your perceived worth and your self-confidence.
• Repetitive, intrusive thoughts about the ex-partner, the past relationship or the reasons for the break-up.
• The ability to project yourself into the future, invest in new projects and consider new relationships.

Take the test: Break-Up → — Grief, self-esteem, rumination, rebuilding: the test maps these four dimensions to pinpoint exactly where you stand.

How to read your score

The result reads as an intensity, not as a diagnosis:

• Low impact of the break-up: You are going through this break-up with resilience. Although the separation is painful, you retain your emotional resources and your ability to rebuild.
• Moderate impact of the break-up: The break-up affects you but you have the resources to move forward. Some dimensions deserve attention to avoid getting stuck.
• High impact of the break-up: The break-up has a significant impact on your emotional balance, your self-esteem and your daily life. Support would be beneficial.
• Very high impact of the break-up: The break-up has a devastating impact on your life. Your suffering is intense and pervades every aspect of your daily life. Professional support is necessary.

What your full report contains

The detailed PDF report (from €4.99) includes:

• Introduction: This report analyses the impact of your break-up across four essential dimensions. The results will help you understand where you stand in your healing process and what actions to take to move forward.
• Global Score: Your global score reflects the intensity of the break-up's impact on your life. The higher the score, the more the break-up affects your emotional balance.
• Dimension-by-Dimension Analysis: Each dimension explores a specific aspect of your post-break-up experience. The detailed analysis helps you identify the areas where you most need support.
• Recommendations: The following recommendations are personalised to support you in your process of healing and rebuilding.
• Resources: Recommended reading: 'Comment guérir du mal d'amour' by Patricia Delahaie, 'Le deuil amoureux' by Catherine Bensaid. Emotion-focused therapy (EFT) is particularly effective for getting through a break-up.

The first 5 questions are free; the full personalised report (your precise score, your profile by dimension, your recommendations) is paid.

When to take this test

• You recognise yourself in break-up, separation, grief and want to see things clearly.
• You want a structured reading rather than a vague impression.
• You are looking for an objective starting point before discussing it with a professional if needed.

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FAQ

How long does the test take? 60 questions, around 15 min. The test has 60 questions. Does the test provide a diagnosis? No. It measures an intensity and provides landmarks; only a professional can make a diagnosis. Are my answers confidential? Yes: the test is 100% anonymous and the report is delivered directly to you.

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