
Emotional Dependency
Sortir du besoin compulsif de l'autre
By Gildas Garrec · 210 pages · 2025
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About this book
Guide TCC pour identifier la dépendance affective (codépendance), comprendre ses origines (Bowlby, Norwood), poser des limites, retrouver une autonomie émotionnelle.
Do you often confuse love with needing someone? Can't stand being alone, accept the unacceptable to avoid losing your partner, or completely lose yourself in your relationships? This clinical guide explores emotional dependency — that excessive need for the other person's reassurance and presence to feel safe — across 8 chapters tracing its roots in anxious childhood attachment all the way to a path toward emotional autonomy. Grounded in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), John Bowlby's attachment theory and Jeffrey Young's schema therapy, it also draws on recent neurobiological research on relational addiction to destigmatize what isn't weakness but a learned survival strategy — and therefore a reversible one. Each chapter combines clinical case studies with concrete practical exercises to help you identify your own dependency cycle, face the fear of abandonment, and build a balanced relationship where love stays a free choice, never a prison. Also intended for helping professionals looking to enrich their clinical practice.
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- 1Breaking Free from the Need for Others
- 2Defining emotional dependency
- 3Clinical characteristics
- 4Different clinical presentations
- 5The spectrum of emotional dependency
- 6Healthy attachment versus dependency: the distinguishing criteria
- 7The neurobiological mechanisms of emotional dependency
- 8The cultural and social dimension
- 9Prevalence and epidemiological data
- 10Lesser-known forms of emotional dependency
- 11The continuum between love and addiction: a scientific debate
- 12The role of the psychological immune system
- 13Emotional dependency and comorbidities
- 14Understanding codependency
- 15Codependent patterns
- 16The rescuer trap
- 17The origins of codependency
- 18Codependency and gender
- 19The neurobiology of codependency
- 20The physical impact of codependency
- 21Codependency in relationships with narcissistic personalities
- 22Escaping codependency: the first steps
- 23Attachment theory: the fundamentals
- 24Anxious attachment as the breeding ground for emotional dependency
- 25Origins in childhood
- 26Internal working models
- 27The intergenerational transmission of attachment
- 28Neuroplasticity: the brain can change
- 29Attachment in adulthood: Hazan and Shaver's research
- 30The role of implicit memory
- 31When anxious attachment meets trauma
- 32Recognizing your attachment style
- 33The phases of the cycle
- 34Intermittent reinforcement: the fuel of the cycle
- 35The repetition compulsion: why we always fall back into the same pattern
- 36The social and economic cost of emotional dependency
- 37The factors maintaining the cycle
- 38The biochemistry of the cycle: understanding emotional withdrawal
- 39The trauma bond
- 40The role of social media in accelerating the cycle
- 41The abandonment schema according to Jeffrey Young
- 42The self-fulfilling prophecy
- 43The fear of abandonment in children of divorce
- 44Real abandonment versus perceived abandonment
- 45Manifestations of the fear of abandonment
- 46The neuroscientific roots of the fear of abandonment
- 47The fear of abandonment and the five core wounds
- 48Compensation strategies: how the fear of abandonment disguises itself
- 49Healing the abandonment wound: therapeutic pathways
- 50Enmeshment: an impossible boundary
- 51The loss of self: a four-stage process
- 52Identity diffusion
- 53The consequences of enmeshment on mental health
- 54Enmeshment and the soulmate myth
- 55Parental enmeshment: when the parent dissolves into the child
- 56Personal boundaries: definition and construction
- 57Early warning signs of enmeshment
- 58Chosen solitude versus imposed solitude
- 59Building self-validation
- 60Self-soothing: becoming your own secure base
- 61CBT techniques for autonomy
- 62Reparenting: becoming the parent you never had
- 63Spirituality and the existential dimension
- 64The body as ally: the somatic approach to autonomy
- 65The pitfalls of reclaiming autonomy
- 66The role of those around us in the healing process
- 67Healthy interdependence versus dependency
- 68Maintaining individuality in the couple
- 69The pillars of a balanced relationship
- 70Vulnerability as strength: the lessons of Brene Brown
- 71Nonviolent Communication in the couple
- 72When both partners are on the journey
- 73Love after healing: testimonies of transformation
- 74What we have learned together
- 75The paradox of healing
- 76Self-love: the forgotten foundation
- 77The journey continues
- 78A message of hope
- 79A final word
- 80Scientific articles
- 81Reference works
- 82About the Author
- 83Other books in the collection
- 84Crisis resources
- 85Domestic abuse
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