
Emotional Dependency
Breaking Free from the Compulsive Need for Others
By Gildas Garrec · 210 pages · 2025
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About this book
Guide TCC pour identifier la dépendance affective (codépendance), comprendre ses origines (Bowlby, Norwood), poser des limites, retrouver une autonomie émotionnelle.
Do you often confuse love with needing someone? Can't stand being alone, accept the unacceptable to avoid losing your partner, or completely lose yourself in your relationships? This clinical guide explores emotional dependency — that excessive need for the other person's reassurance and presence to feel safe — across 8 chapters tracing its roots in anxious childhood attachment all the way to a path toward emotional autonomy. Grounded in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), John Bowlby's attachment theory and Jeffrey Young's schema therapy, it also draws on recent neurobiological research on relational addiction to destigmatize what isn't weakness but a learned survival strategy — and therefore a reversible one. Each chapter combines clinical case studies with concrete practical exercises to help you identify your own dependency cycle, face the fear of abandonment, and build a balanced relationship where love stays a free choice, never a prison. Also intended for helping professionals looking to enrich their clinical practice.
Table of contents
- 1Breaking Free from the Need for Others
- 2Crisis resources
- 3Domestic abuse
- 4Defining emotional dependency
- 5Clinical characteristics
- 6Different clinical presentations
- 7The spectrum of emotional dependency
- 8Healthy attachment versus dependency: the distinguishing criteria
- 9The neurobiological mechanisms of emotional dependency
- 10The cultural and social dimension
- 11Prevalence and epidemiological data
- 12Lesser-known forms of emotional dependency
- 13The continuum between love and addiction: a scientific debate
- 14The role of the psychological immune system
- 15Emotional dependency and comorbidities
- 16Understanding codependency
- 17Codependent patterns
- 18The rescuer trap
- 19The origins of codependency
- 20Codependency and gender
- 21The neurobiology of codependency
- 22The physical impact of codependency
- 23Codependency in relationships with narcissistic personalities
- 24Escaping codependency: the first steps
- 25Attachment theory: the fundamentals
- 26Anxious attachment as the breeding ground for emotional dependency
- 27Origins in childhood
- 28Internal working models
- 29The intergenerational transmission of attachment
- 30Neuroplasticity: the brain can change
- 31Attachment in adulthood: Hazan and Shaver's research
- 32The role of implicit memory
- 33When anxious attachment meets trauma
- 34Recognizing your attachment style
- 35The phases of the cycle
- 36Intermittent reinforcement: the fuel of the cycle
- 37The repetition compulsion: why we always fall back into the same pattern
- 38The social and economic cost of emotional dependency
- 39The factors maintaining the cycle
- 40The biochemistry of the cycle: understanding emotional withdrawal
- 41The trauma bond
- 42The role of social media in accelerating the cycle
- 43The abandonment schema according to Jeffrey Young
- 44The self-fulfilling prophecy
- 45The fear of abandonment in children of divorce
- 46Real abandonment versus perceived abandonment
- 47Manifestations of the fear of abandonment
- 48The neuroscientific roots of the fear of abandonment
- 49The fear of abandonment and the five core wounds
- 50Compensation strategies: how the fear of abandonment disguises itself
- 51Healing the abandonment wound: therapeutic pathways
- 52Enmeshment: an impossible boundary
- 53The loss of self: a four-stage process
- 54Identity diffusion
- 55The consequences of enmeshment on mental health
- 56Enmeshment and the soulmate myth
- 57Parental enmeshment: when the parent dissolves into the child
- 58Personal boundaries: definition and construction
- 59Early warning signs of enmeshment
- 60Chosen solitude versus imposed solitude
- 61Building self-validation
- 62Self-soothing: becoming your own secure base
- 63CBT techniques for autonomy
- 64Reparenting: becoming the parent you never had
- 65Spirituality and the existential dimension
- 66The body as ally: the somatic approach to autonomy
- 67The pitfalls of reclaiming autonomy
- 68The role of those around us in the healing process
- 69Healthy interdependence versus dependency
- 70Maintaining individuality in the couple
- 71The pillars of a balanced relationship
- 72Vulnerability as strength: the lessons of Brene Brown
- 73Nonviolent Communication in the couple
- 74When both partners are on the journey
- 75Love after healing: testimonies of transformation
- 76What we have learned together
- 77The paradox of healing
- 78Self-love: the forgotten foundation
- 79The journey continues
- 80A message of hope
- 81A final word
- 82Scientific articles
- 83Reference works
- 84Other books in the collection
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