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Do I give as much as I receive?
63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 14 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
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This test gathers one point of view, that of the person answering, and nothing else. It looks at the balance between what is invested in the relationship and what is drawn from it: the sense that the efforts are balanced, the need to be recognized for what you bring, what accumulates when that recognition does not come, and the relationship you keep with your own generosity.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book The Practical CBT Guide, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
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Do I give as much as I receive? — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test gathers one point of view on the balance in a couple: investment, recognition for what you give, accumulated resentment and generosity. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 14 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers the relationship, comparison, tiredness, recognition, what others think, frustration, boundaries, support, self-esteem, speaking your mind, conflict, rumination, withdrawal, pleasure and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example The relationship If you often feel that the balance in your relationship is off. If the balance between giving and receiving feels broadly satisfying to you. Comparison If you sometimes mentally keep track of what you give and what you receive. If you can appreciate what you receive without constantly comparing it to what you give. Tiredness If you sometimes feel exhausted from having to give so much. If you can be generous without it costing you emotionally. Recognition If you sometimes feel taken for granted in your relationship. If you feel seen and recognized for what you bring to your relationship. What others think If you sometimes do things for your relationship hoping they will be noticed. If you can give without constantly needing that to be acknowledged. Frustration If feeling overlooked for what you contribute is a source of frustration for you. If you don't need everything you do to be noticed to feel good in your relationship. Boundaries If your generosity has limits you don't always identify before you reach them. If you can give without losing yourself — your generosity doesn't come at your own expense. Support If you sometimes give more than you have — and it leaves you empty. If you can take care of yourself while still being generous with your partner. Self-esteem If you sometimes feel invisible in what you do for your relationship. If your contribution to the relationship doesn't need to be validated to have value. Speaking your mind If you sometimes sense frustrations building inside you without expressing them. If you can express what you're feeling without attacking or blaming. Conflict If you sometimes silence what you're feeling to avoid conflict, then regret it. If you can address your frustrations about imbalance without things escalating into conflict. Rumination If you sometimes revisit past situations where you felt you wasn't treated fairly. If you can distinguish what weighs on you now from what belongs to past episodes. Withdrawal If you sometimes pull back your investment to see if anything changes. If you give in your relationship without always expecting something in return. Pleasure If you sometimes give to fill something rather than from genuine impulse. If you sometimes give spontaneously, without calculation, and it feels good. Readiness to change If the way you give and receive in your relationship has a real impact on your life right now. If you believe you are capable of growing in this area.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Your reading of this imbalance between giving and receiving- The way you explain this imbalance between giving and receiving in your couple, before the test tells you anything. This section does not measure any difficulty and does not produce a level: it collects a starting reading.
- ●Balance of investment- The feeling that the effort invested in the relationship is distributed fairly — or not.
- ●Recognition for what you give- The need to be seen and acknowledged for what you bring to the relationship, and how you experience that need.
- ●Resentment and accumulation- The build-up of frustration when the balance feels broken — and how that gets expressed or suppressed.
- ●Generosity and the act of giving- The capacity to give freely — without keeping score, without exhausting yourself — and your relationship to your own generosity.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge what you're experiencing and allow your situation to evolve.
Reference frameworks and authors
No reliable bibliographic reference identified at the time of the 2026-09-07 audit (agent E, PT remediation, AUDIT-TESTS-2026-09-07.md) — to be researched and validated before any clinical communication about this test. In-house construction, no verified named theoretical basis.
Why take this test?
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This test gathers one point of view, that of the person answering, and nothing else. It looks at the balance between what is invested in the relationship and what is drawn from it: the sense that the efforts are balanced, the need to be recognized for what you bring, what accumulates when that recognition does not come, and the relationship you keep with your own generosity.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Your reading of this imbalance between giving and receiving, Balance of investment, Recognition for what you give, Resentment and accumulation, Generosity and the act of giving. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Your reading of this imbalance between giving and receiving
The way you explain this imbalance between giving and receiving in your couple, before the test tells you anything. This section does not measure any difficulty and does not produce a level: it collects a starting reading.
Balance of investment
The feeling that the effort invested in the relationship is distributed fairly — or not.
Recognition for what you give
The need to be seen and acknowledged for what you bring to the relationship, and how you experience that need.
Resentment and accumulation
The build-up of frustration when the balance feels broken — and how that gets expressed or suppressed.
Generosity and the act of giving
The capacity to give freely — without keeping score, without exhausting yourself — and your relationship to your own generosity.
Readiness to Change
Measures your current readiness to acknowledge what you're experiencing and allow your situation to evolve.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Your reading of this imbalance between giving and receiving, Balance of investment, Recognition for what you give, Resentment and accumulation, Generosity and the act of giving. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Your reading of this imbalance between giving and receiving, Balance of investment, Recognition for what you give…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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