Has Having a Child Hurt Our Intimacy? — Couple Test

This test covers tiredness, desire, the body, appearance, time, the relationship, affection, frustration, parenting, dialogue, reassurance, repair, hope and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Tiredness If you often feel too exhausted to think about intimacy with your partner. If fatigue does not prevent you from having moments of intimacy with your partner. Desire If, when you are rested, the desire for intimacy comes back naturally. If you still know how to flirt with your partner, or feel attracted by them. The body If your relationship to your body has changed since the birth of your child. If you can inhabit your body as it is today, even though it has changed. Appearance If you sometimes feel uncomfortable being seen in your current body by your partner. If you feel broadly comfortable in your body as it is today. Time If it is difficult to find moments where it is just the two of you, without the child. If you still manage to create spaces for your couple, even small ones. The relationship If, since the arrival of the child, you have not really found a new rhythm as a couple. If you have adapted your way of being together to the constraints of parenthood. Affection If you can imagine a light form of intimacy, tenderness, touch or presence, even when you are tired. If you still know how to create moments of tenderness or closeness with your partner. Frustration If fatigue sometimes creates an irritability that distances you from each other. If your lack of time together generates a sense of frustration or isolation. Parenting If, since the birth, you define yourself first as a parent and then as a partner. If you still see yourself as a partner, not only as a parent. Dialogue If you sense that reconnection will require a conversation you have not yet had. If your relationship to your body after birth is something you wish you had been able to talk about more. Reassurance If you feel less desirable since the birth. If your partner makes you feel that your body is still desirable to them. Repair If reconnecting with your partner feels difficult to initiate. If you believe your intimacy can be rebuilt differently, not like before, but still well. Hope If you would like to find some form of intimacy with your partner but you are not sure how to initiate it. If, even if the path is slow, you sense you are moving in the right direction. Readiness to change If you want your situation to change. If you are ready to take concrete steps so that intimacy finds its place in your life again.