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Narcissistic Abuse Test: spotting the cycle of control
68 questions·10 min·6 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 17 clinical frameworks·6 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
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This test describes the dynamic of control through its facets: the alternation between idealization and disparagement, the tightening around who you see, the distortions of reality and reversals of blame, the indifference to what you are going through, and the exhaustion that follows. The report focuses on the dynamic and on the facet it began with.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 68 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book The Practical CBT Guide, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
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Narcissistic Abuse Test: spotting the cycle of control — a 68-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test describes the dynamic of narcissistic abuse through five facets, the facet it began with, and what it costs you. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 6 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 17 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This interactive test covers the swing between idealization and devaluation, gradual isolation, control, having your sense of reality questioned, a lack of empathy, self-esteem, hypervigilance, fatigue, guilt, autonomy, and your readiness to make a change. What the test asks, for example The swing Whether a minor remark is enough to tip this person from a warm tone into a heavy silence. Whether the way they speak to you stays roughly the same, whether they're in a good or bad mood. Isolation Whether this person has, over time, fallen out with several people close to you. Whether your longtime friends are still part of your everyday life, at the same pace as before this relationship. Control Whether they demand a detailed account of your schedule the moment you get home later than expected. Whether you keep free access to your bank account and everyday spending, without having to account for it. Having your reality questioned Whether this person denies having said something you can find in writing. Whether, on something you can prove, they eventually admit they were wrong. Empathy Whether, when you tell them about a difficulty, this person changes the subject or turns the conversation back to themselves. Whether they notice your efforts and successes, and tell you so sincerely. Self-esteem Whether you keep trusting your own judgment, even on topics where this person disputes your version. Whether what you give in this relationship — time, attention, money — outweighs what you get back. Hypervigilance Whether, the moment this person arrives, you scan their face and tone to guess their mood before they even speak. Whether, in their presence, you keep behaving as you normally would, without watching your every move or word. Fatigue Whether, in the morning, you wake up without tension in your body. Whether, after an exchange with them, what dominates in you is a sense of emptiness. Guilt and autonomy Whether, to avoid a reaction from this person, you give up plans or outings that matter to you. Whether, before finalizing a decision about your own life, you ask someone else's opinion, even on minor points. Readiness to change Whether what you've just described weighs on your life right now. Whether you want to find your balance again, and believe you're capable of it.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Idealization / devaluation cycle- How steady, or how unsteady, this person's regard for you actually is. The report looks at the cycle itself rather than at any single episode taken on its own.
- ●Control & isolation- The real room you have to manoeuvre from day to day. This dimension is read in terms of resources: the time, money and relationships still available to you decide what remains possible.
- ●Manipulation & gaslighting- How facts and fault get distributed within this relationship. The report looks at whether a disagreement can actually be settled here, or whether it systematically gets shifted onto different ground.
- ●Lack of empathy- How what you feel is received when you put it into words. This dimension is about reciprocity: what flows toward the other person, and what comes back to you when it's you who is struggling.
- ●Impact on you- What has shifted in you since this relationship began. The report reads this dimension against an implicit comparison with who you were before, not as a description of who you are.
- ●Readiness to Change- Your starting point, which the report keeps separate from the other five dimensions: awareness of what is happening, the wish to feel better, and the sense of having the means to get there each move at their own pace.
- ●Your reading of this hold- The way you explain this hold to yourself, before the test tells you anything at all. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it gathers a starting reading, because a hold like this is not lived the same way depending on whether you hold yourself responsible, hold the other person responsible, or see it as the result of meeting them at the wrong time.
Reference frameworks and authors
- ICD-11 — International Classification of Diseases, 11th Revision (World Health Organization, 2022)
Why take this test?
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This test describes the dynamic of control through its facets: the alternation between idealization and disparagement, the tightening around who you see, the distortions of reality and reversals of blame, the indifference to what you are going through, and the exhaustion that follows. The report focuses on the dynamic and on the facet it began with.
The questionnaire explores 6 areas: Idealization / devaluation cycle, Control & isolation, Manipulation & gaslighting, Lack of empathy, Impact on you, Your reading of this hold. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Idealization / devaluation cycle
How steady, or how unsteady, this person's regard for you actually is. The report looks at the cycle itself rather than at any single episode taken on its own.
Control & isolation
The real room you have to manoeuvre from day to day. This dimension is read in terms of resources: the time, money and relationships still available to you decide what remains possible.
Manipulation & gaslighting
How facts and fault get distributed within this relationship. The report looks at whether a disagreement can actually be settled here, or whether it systematically gets shifted onto different ground.
Lack of empathy
How what you feel is received when you put it into words. This dimension is about reciprocity: what flows toward the other person, and what comes back to you when it's you who is struggling.
Impact on you
What has shifted in you since this relationship began. The report reads this dimension against an implicit comparison with who you were before, not as a description of who you are.
Readiness to Change
Your starting point, which the report keeps separate from the other five dimensions: awareness of what is happening, the wish to feel better, and the sense of having the means to get there each move at their own pace.
Your reading of this hold
The way you explain this hold to yourself, before the test tells you anything at all. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it gathers a starting reading, because a hold like this is not lived the same way depending on whether you hold yourself responsible, hold the other person responsible, or see it as the result of meeting them at the wrong time.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 68 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (6 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 6 psychological dimensions: Idealization / devaluation cycle, Control & isolation, Manipulation & gaslighting, Lack of empathy, Impact on you, Your reading of this hold. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 68 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 6 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Idealization / devaluation cycle, Control & isolation, Manipulation & gaslighting…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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