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Trauma Bond Test — Am I in a Trauma Bond?
63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 21 clinical frameworks·6 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
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This test looks at the traumatic bond through four aspects: tension and intense reconciliation taking turns, the impossibility of staying away despite the attempts, the hook made by good moments that come without any pattern, and the gap between what you know and what you manage to do. The report lays bare the machinery that wipes out past crises.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book Trauma Bonding, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
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Trauma Bond Test — Am I in a Trauma Bond? — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at the traumatic bond through four aspects, and lays bare the machinery that wipes out past crises. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 21 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers attachment, separation, loneliness, longing, affection, alternation, hypervigilance, anticipation, hope, confidence, isolation, support, secrecy, plans and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Attachment If you feel unable to imagine your life without this person. If you know this relationship harms you but you can't leave. Separation If you have come back after a breakup attempt. If you have considered breaking up several times without taking action. Loneliness If the idea of finding yourself alone feels more frightening than continuing to suffer in this relationship. If you tell yourself that no one else could understand you or love you like this person does. Longing If, when you distance yourself, the longing is physical and unbearable. If you live for the moments when they become affectionate again. Affection If a simple mark of affection after a difficult period makes you euphoric. If the affection you receive is regular and predictable; you don't have to earn it every time. Alternation If you never know in advance whether you'll receive tenderness or indifference. If your calm moments are stable and last over time, without tension creeping back. Hypervigilance If, when things have been going well for a few days, you can't help watching for the sign it's about to sour. If you spend a lot of time analyzing their moods to anticipate. Anticipation If you live in fear of the next crisis. If you've learned not to enjoy the good moments too much, because you know a crisis may follow. Hope If calm periods make you hope that everything will change. If you put a lot of energy into trying to get back the ideal person they were at the start. Confidence If you have lost confidence in your own judgment. If you doubt your perceptions after their explanations. Isolation If you are gradually isolating yourself from loved ones or passions. If you keep activities and relationships of your own, independent of your partner. Support If you lack external support (friend, family, professional) to help you. If your loved ones don't understand why you stay. Secrecy If you notice that you increasingly hide the reality of your relationship from those around you. If, between what you truly feel and what you show of your relationship, there's a big gap. Plans If you have not set up a concrete plan to leave. If what you know about the situation and what you manage to act on are perfectly aligned. Readiness to change If this traumatic bond you have experienced has a real impact on your life and relationships. If you believe you are capable of rebuilding and getting better.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Violence-reconciliation cycle- Alternation between tension/conflict phases and intense tenderness (Walker 1979 cycle).
- ●Inability to leave despite awareness- Emotional impossibility to walk away lastingly, returns after breakup attempts.
- ●Intermittent reinforcement- Behavioral dependency on unpredictable positive moments (Skinner / Dutton-Painter 1981).
- ●Awareness-action gap- Gap between intellectual knowledge (toxic relationship) and concrete ability to act.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of what you have experienced and engage in a process of reconstruction and healing.
- ●Your reading of this bond- The way you explain this bond that keeps you with this person to yourself, before the test tells you anything at all. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it gathers a starting reading, because a bond like this is not lived the same way depending on whether you trace it to what came before this relationship, to how this person functions, or to an accumulation over time.
Reference frameworks and authors
- Cycle of violence / trauma bonding theory (Walker, 1979)
- Attachment theory (Bowlby, 1969)
- based on Young Schema Questionnaire (YSQ) (Young, 1990)
Why take this test?
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This test looks at the traumatic bond through four aspects: tension and intense reconciliation taking turns, the impossibility of staying away despite the attempts, the hook made by good moments that come without any pattern, and the gap between what you know and what you manage to do. The report lays bare the machinery that wipes out past crises.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Violence-reconciliation cycle, Inability to leave despite awareness, Intermittent reinforcement, Awareness-action gap, Your reading of this bond. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Violence-reconciliation cycle
Alternation between tension/conflict phases and intense tenderness (Walker 1979 cycle).
Inability to leave despite awareness
Emotional impossibility to walk away lastingly, returns after breakup attempts.
Intermittent reinforcement
Behavioral dependency on unpredictable positive moments (Skinner / Dutton-Painter 1981).
Awareness-action gap
Gap between intellectual knowledge (toxic relationship) and concrete ability to act.
Readiness to Change
Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of what you have experienced and engage in a process of reconstruction and healing.
Your reading of this bond
The way you explain this bond that keeps you with this person to yourself, before the test tells you anything at all. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it gathers a starting reading, because a bond like this is not lived the same way depending on whether you trace it to what came before this relationship, to how this person functions, or to an accumulation over time.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Violence-reconciliation cycle, Inability to leave despite awareness, Intermittent reinforcement, Awareness-action gap, Your reading of this bond. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Violence-reconciliation cycle, Inability to leave despite awareness, Intermittent reinforcement…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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