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Relationship Patterns Test: Why Do I Repeat the Same Relationships?
64 questions·10 min·5 dimensions·6 report sections
Good morning,
This test looks at the relationship patterns that replay, through four aspects: the kind of person your attraction goes toward, what your current bonds borrow from something older, the position you end up occupying — supporting, giving in, controlling, rescuing — and how automatic the cycle stays despite your clear-sightedness. The report locates the entry point of the cycle in time.
The report opens with a synthesis of what your answers bring out, then analyzes each of the 5 dimensions of the test: what it describes of a way of functioning, and how they answer one another. It sheds light on those answers through clinical reading frameworks, and offers leads to bring alongside what you live. It closes with an action plan over three horizons: what you can try this week, what takes a month, what takes longer. The detail of your answers, question by question, is attached as an appendix.
The test runs over 64 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
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Relationship Patterns Test: Why Do I Repeat the Same Relationships? — a 64-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at the relationship patterns that replay, through four aspects. The report locates the entry point of the cycle. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): your score on each of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers attachment, desire, anticipation, separation, identity, speaking your mind, boundaries, self-esteem, responsibility, the relationship, control, perseverance, memory, rejection and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Attachment If you are drawn to emotionally unavailable people. If you feel attracted to available and reliable people. Desire If stable and available people seem dull or uninteresting to you. If you stay interested in someone even when they are stable and kind. Anticipation If you tend to ignore red flags at the start of a relationship. If you take red flags into account from the start of a relationship. Separation If your relationships end for surprisingly similar reasons. If the way your relationships end varies with the people and contexts. Identity If you always occupy the same role in your relationships (the one who gives, rescues, adapts). If your identity stays solid, regardless of your role in the relationship. Speaking your mind If you struggle to express your needs for fear of displeasing or being left. If you express your needs clearly, even at the risk of displeasing. Boundaries If you tolerate behaviors you would not accept from someone else. If you look after your own balance as much as your partner's. Self-esteem If you feel you must earn love through your efforts. If you feel worthy of love without having to carry everything. Responsibility If you feel responsible for your partner's mood or happiness. If, in your relationships, roles and efforts are balanced between you. The relationship If you are afraid that without your constant efforts the relationship would collapse. If, when a relationship feels good, you notice it and rely on it. Control If you sometimes feel like a spectator of a script you do not control. If your choices in love are guided by conscious decisions. Perseverance If, despite the pain, you struggle to break these patterns. If you manage to interrupt a pattern when you sense it starting up again. Memory If you recognize traits of an important figure from your past in your partners. If you live your current relationships from who you are today. Rejection If your fears in love (abandonment, rejection, suffocation) recur from one relationship to the next. If you feel enough and important in your relationships. Readiness to change If your repetitive relationship patterns have a real impact on your life and relationships. If you believe you are capable of growing in this area.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Recurring Partner Choice- Tendency to be drawn to the same kind of profile, often unavailable or problematic
- ●Old Roots- A sense of replaying familiar dynamics from your history in love
- ●Fixed Role- Tendency to always occupy the same role (rescuer, submissive, over-giver, controlling...)
- ●Unconscious Cycle- Automatic, repeated nature of the cycle, despite awareness or harm
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of this topic on your life and engage in a process of growth.
Reference frameworks and authors
- Early maladaptive schemas (Young, 1990)
Why take this test?
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Our romantic and interpersonal relationships are deeply influenced by our attachment style and relational patterns. Understanding these mechanisms helps break repetitive cycles, improve communication, and build more fulfilling connections.
The Relationship Patterns Test: Why Do I Repeat the Same Relationships? specifically evaluates 5 key dimensions: Recurring Partner Choice, Old Roots, Fixed Role, Unconscious Cycle, Readiness to Change. With 64 carefully crafted questions, it provides a detailed and nuanced picture of your psychological profile in this area. The test takes approximately 10 min and can be completed at your own pace, from any device.
Whether you’re seeking personal development, considering therapy, or simply curious about yourself, this test gives you concrete and actionable results to move forward with confidence.
Daily-life situations this test explores
To help you picture what to expect before you start, here are the concrete contexts the Relationship Patterns Test: Why Do I Repeat the Same Relationships? sheds light on. This is not the list of questions (you discover them when you start the test) — it is the life situations it assesses.
At the start of a relationship
Your first instincts when attracted: opening up fast or holding back, idealizing or doubting, chasing or running away.
In conflict
How you handle disagreement: avoiding, exploding, shutting down, seeking immediate reconciliation, or ruminating for days.
When the other person pulls away
Your reactions to absence, silence, distance: anxiety, control, withdrawal, apparent indifference, constant need for reassurance.
In emotional intimacy
Ability to say what you feel, to receive what the other feels, to welcome vulnerability without fleeing or judging it.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 64 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does the Relationship Patterns Test: Why Do I Repeat the Same Relationships? measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Recurring Partner Choice, Old Roots, Fixed Role, Unconscious Cycle, Readiness to Change. Each dimension is scored individually, giving you a detailed view of your profile rather than a single overall number.
How long does the Relationship Patterns Test: Why Do I Repeat the Same Relationships? take?
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The test contains 64 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This test is based on established models in clinical psychology and psychometrics. It evaluates 5 dimensions (Recurring Partner Choice, Old Roots, Fixed Role...) using validated assessment scales.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your Relationship Patterns Test: Why Do I Repeat the Same Relationships? report includes: your overall score with detailed interpretation, individual analysis of each of the 5 dimensions, a radar chart visualizing your profile, personalized recommendations for improvement, practical exercises, and additional resources.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is the Relationship Patterns Test: Why Do I Repeat the Same Relationships? for?
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This test is designed for any adult wishing to better understand their functioning in this area, whether out of curiosity, as part of a self-knowledge journey or to prepare a conversation with a professional.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake the Relationship Patterns Test: Why Do I Repeat the Same Relationships? as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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Your report offers a clinical reading of your profile with concrete recommendations. You can use it as material for personal reflection, to open a conversation with someone close to you, or take it to a professional (psychologist, therapist, doctor) to enrich the consultation with a structured view of your dimensions.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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