Do We Share the Same Life Goals? — Couple Quiz

This test covers plans, the future, conflict, parenting, support, boundaries, dialogue, listening, rules, money, work, independence, personal standards, commitments and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Plans If your personal projects compete with your shared project. If the plans you make for the future reflect what matters to both of you. The future If your respective dreams leave little room for the other. If you can picture your life together in five or ten years. Conflict If your respective ambitions come into conflict. If you have the feeling that you are looking in the same direction when you think about the future. Parenting If the question of children — whether having them or not — is more a source of tension than agreement between you. If your convictions about raising children — if you have or are considering having them — seem close to those of your partner. Support If your attitudes toward family obligations and bonds are at odds. If you feel that your partner respects your choices regarding family, even when they differ from their own. Boundaries If your relationships with extended family — parents, siblings — are a source of disagreement. If you perceive an agreement between you on the place you want to give to family in your daily lives. Dialogue If the possibility of moving quickly turns into an argument. If discussions about where you live take place in a climate of mutual respect. Listening If overall, your relationship to where you live creates persistent friction between you. If your partner takes your preferences into account when you talk about where you live. Rules If, when you face an ethical or moral dilemma, your responses often diverge. If your respective ideas about honesty and integrity seem close to you. Money If your ways of seeing money and managing it often clash. If your housing priorities — owning, renting, space, budget — seem aligned to you. Work If you do not draw the line between personal and professional life in the same place. If you perceive that you have compatible aspirations in terms of professional and creative pursuits. Independence If one of you wants to put down roots, the other wants to be able to leave. If your respective relationships to autonomy and personal freedom seem compatible to you. Personal standards If one of you aims markedly higher than the other, and it weighs on you. If, when it comes to your priorities in life, you feel in agreement with your partner. Commitments If your relationships to geographic mobility are at odds. If you feel that you could agree on a place to settle down for the long term. Readiness to change If the alignment of your life plans has a real impact on your relationship right now. If you believe you can find a balance on your life plans if you talk about them.