Infidelity Test — Trauma, Forgiveness, or Break Up: what it measures and how to interpret your score

Infidelity is a major crisis of the marital bond. It can trigger symptoms similar to post-traumatic stress (intrusions, hypervigilance, somatization) and plunge into exhausting indecision. This 30-question test evaluates four dimensions of your current experience: intensity of betrayal trauma, frequency of signs and intuition, barriers to reconstruction, and clarity (or confusion) of your decision. It is a self-assessment centered on your experience — it does not diagnose your partner or your couple. The results help you clarify where you stand and identify the most relevant resources (CBT, EMDR, couples therapy, taking distance).

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What the test measures

• Intensity of post-traumatic stress symptoms triggered by the betrayal (intrusions, hypervigilance, somatization).
• Frequency of observed signs and intensity of intuition about infidelity, without diagnosing the partner.
• Internal and relational barriers preventing durable reconstruction of the bond.
• Level of indecision and paralysis facing the stay-or-leave choice.

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How to interpret your score

Your result reads as an intensity, not a diagnosis:

• Low global impact : You are going through the infidelity ordeal with resilience. Your internal and relational resources remain active.
• Moderate global impact : Infidelity affects you but you maintain a course. There are areas to clarify (forgiveness, decision, trauma) before being able to move forward durably.
• High global impact : The situation weighs heavily and several dimensions are weakened. Without intervention, the risk of exhaustion or impulsive decisions is real.
• Very high global impact : The current ordeal exceeds your coping resources. Trauma, forgiveness difficulty, and indecision accumulate.

What your full report includes

Beyond the 5 questions, the detailed PDF report (from €2.99) includes:

• Introduction : This report is a self-assessment, not a diagnosis. It analyzes the impact of infidelity on your current experience across four dimensions: trauma, detection, forgiveness capacity, and decision. The results help you clarify where you stand and identify priority resources.
• Global Score : Your global score reflects the combined intensity of the current impact of infidelity on you. The higher the score, the more pervasive the experience, and the more relevant professional support becomes.
• Analysis by Dimension : Each dimension sheds light on a specific aspect of what you are going through. A high dimension is not a fate: it is a signal to direct your attention and resources.
• Recommendations : The following recommendations are calibrated to your results. They aim to support your inner clarity (trauma, decision) AND the quality of the bond if reconstruction is pursued (forgiveness, communication).
• Resources : To go further: the work of Snyder, Baucom and Gordon (Getting Past the Affair, 2007) remains a clinical reference on post-betrayal reconstruction. Pittman's work (Private Lies, 1989) remains illuminating on typology. CBT or EMDR support for trauma, or a structured couples therapy, are the most studied paths.

The full personalised report (your precise score, your profile per dimension, your recommendations) is paid.

When to take this test

• You recognise yourself in infidelity, betrayal, cheating and want to see more clearly.
• You want a structured reading rather than a vague impression.
• You are looking for an objective starting point before talking to a professional if needed.

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FAQ

How long does the test take? 30 questions, about 15 min. The first 5 are free. Does the test provide a diagnosis? No. It measures an intensity and gives you reference points; only a professional can make a diagnosis. Are my answers confidential? Yes: the test is 100% anonymous and the report is delivered directly to you.

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