Emotional Dependency Scores: Reading the Overall Result and Profile

Companion reading: Emotional Dependency Test: Are You Too Dependent?.

In the article that follows, I explore emotional dependency and the need for the other. If you recognise yourself in this theme, I designed an emotional dependency test that helps you take stock of your relationship to others and your emotional autonomy. It comes with a guide to extend your reflection beyond the results. I also wrote a book on this subject, Emotional Dependency (Dépendance Affective), if you would like to go further.

Interpreting Your Overall Score

Total Score: ___ / 100 (add up the 5 subtotals)

0 to 25: Healthy Emotional Autonomy

Your emotional functioning is balanced. You're capable of loving without losing yourself in the other person, of tolerating solitude without distress, and of maintaining your identity within the relationship. This doesn't mean you never have doubts or insecurities: it means you have the internal resources to manage them appropriately.

26 to 50: Mild to Moderate Emotional Dependency

You present tendencies toward emotional dependency that merit your attention. They're not necessarily problematic if they don't generate significant suffering, but they can become overwhelming in the context of relational stress (conflict, threat of breakup, distance). Preventive work is recommended, particularly on the dimensions where your score is highest. You can also discuss this in Psy Lounge, a voice space run by a CBT-trained AI.

51 to 75: Significant Emotional Dependency

Your emotional dependency has a real impact on your daily life and the quality of your relationships. The relational patterns at play are probably rooted in your early history and require structured therapeutic work. CBT and schema therapy are particularly indicated. The more precisely you identify the affected dimensions, the more effective the work will be.

76 to 100: Severe Emotional Dependency

At this level, emotional dependency is probably experienced as intense and permanent suffering. Your relationships are marked by anxiety, control, or complete self-erasure. Your self-esteem is very fragile and closely tied to how others see you. Professional therapeutic support is strongly recommended. This score is neither a fate nor a judgment: it's a starting point for liberation work.

Analysis by Dimension: Understanding Your Profile

Beyond the overall score, the analysis by dimension is the richest in clinical information. Here's how to interpret your subtotals.

• High Score A (fear of abandonment): recommended work on the abandonment schema, techniques for tolerating uncertainty (CBT), and exploring abandonment experiences in childhood.
• High Score B (need for approval): work on internal validation, restructuring beliefs like "I have value only if the other person approves of me," and strengthening your own identity.
• High Score C (self-erasure): work on assertiveness, identifying your own needs, and deconstructing the self-sacrifice schema. Our 10 CBT exercises for self-esteem are a good starting point.
• High Score D (difficulty with solitude): work on gradually taming solitude through graded exposures, and exploring the fear of inner emptiness.
• High Score E (anxious control): specific work on pathological jealousy, verification rituals, and tolerating relational uncertainty.

Further reading

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