Fear of Abandonment Test: What It Measures and How to Read Your Score

The fear of abandonment is one of the most widespread and most impactful emotional wounds in relationships. This 30-question test explores four dimensions: separation anxiety, the need for reassurance, hypersensitivity to rejection and avoidance strategies. The results will give you a deep understanding of your reactions when faced with the threat of relational loss. Discover how this fear was built and which strategies to adopt in order to move beyond it and experience calmer relationships.

In the article that follows, I explore the fear of abandonment. If you recognise yourself in this theme, I designed a fear of abandonment test that helps you take stock of the intensity of your abandonment anxiety. It comes with a guide to extend your reflection beyond the results.

What the test measures

• The anguish felt during physical or emotional separation from attachment figures.
• The frequent need to be reassured about the solidity of the bond and the other person's feelings.
• Extreme sensitivity to real or perceived signs of rejection, criticism or disinterest.
• Behaviours adopted to avoid the potential suffering of abandonment (sabotage, withdrawal, excessive dependence).

Take the test: Emotional Dependency Test → — Fear of abandonment and emotional dependency overlap closely: this test assesses how far separation anxiety drives your relationships.

How to read your score

The result reads as an intensity, not as a diagnosis:

• Low fear of abandonment: The fear of abandonment is not a dominant theme in your relational life. You generally feel secure in your bonds.
• Moderate fear of abandonment: The fear of abandonment is present but managed. Certain specific situations can reawaken it.
• High fear of abandonment: The fear of abandonment significantly affects your relationships and your well-being. It influences your relational choices and behaviours.
• Very high fear of abandonment: The fear of abandonment dominates your relational life and generates intense suffering. It requires in-depth therapeutic work.

What your full report contains

The detailed PDF report (from €2.99) includes:

• Introduction: This report analyses your fear of abandonment across four dimensions. The results will help you understand the deep mechanisms that influence your relationships and find paths to healing.
• Global Score: Your global score reflects the intensity of your fear of abandonment. The higher the score, the more this fear influences your behaviours and your relational choices.
• Dimension-by-Dimension Analysis: Each dimension explores a specific aspect of the fear of abandonment. The detailed analysis helps you identify the mechanisms that are most active and most impactful in your life.
• Recommendations: The following recommendations are personalised to help you tame your fear of abandonment and build calmer relationships.
• Resources: Recommended reading: 'Les 5 blessures qui empêchent d'être soi-même' by Lise Bourbeau, 'Reinventing Your Life' by Jeffrey Young. Schema therapy is particularly effective for the fear of abandonment.

The first 5 questions are free; the full personalised report (your precise score, your profile by dimension, your recommendations) is paid.

When to take this test

• You recognise yourself in abandonment, fear, attachment and want to see things clearly.
• You want a structured reading rather than a vague impression.
• You are looking for an objective starting point before discussing it with a professional if needed.

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FAQ

How long does the test take? 60 questions, around 15 min. The test has 60 questions. Does the test provide a diagnosis? No. It measures an intensity and provides landmarks; only a professional can make a diagnosis. Are my answers confidential? Yes: the test is 100% anonymous and the report is delivered directly to you.

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