Toxic Relationship Detection test: what it measures and how to interpret your score

Toxic relationships can develop insidiously and be difficult to identify from the inside. This 63-question test explores six key dimensions of relational toxicity: how you currently read what is happening in the relationship, manipulation, control, devaluation, isolation, and your readiness to change. Each dimension is precisely evaluated to offer you a clear picture of the dynamics in your relationship. The results will help you become aware of harmful behaviors and consider protective actions.

In the article that follows, I explore toxic relationships and whether to stay or leave. If you recognise yourself in this theme, I designed a toxic relationship test that helps you take stock of how toxic your relationship really is. It comes with a guide to extend your reflection beyond the results. I also wrote two books on this subject, Breaking Free from Toxic Relationships and Trauma Bonding, if you would like to go further. Worth knowing: I also offer ScanMyLove, a tool that analyses couple conversations from a simple export, to better understand a relationship's dynamic.

What the test measures

• How you currently explain what is happening in the relationship — before the test tells you anything.
• Use of covert strategies to influence your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.
• Attempts to control your choices, activities, and personal freedom.
• Behaviors aimed at diminishing your self-esteem, confidence, and personal worth.
• Strategies aimed at cutting you off from your social circle, friends, and family.
• Your readiness to change, which calibrates how the recommendations are pitched.

Take the test: Toxic Relationship Detection → — Score the four dimensions — manipulation, control, devaluation, isolation — that are so hard to see from the inside.

How to interpret your score

Your result reads as an intensity, not a diagnosis:

• Healthy relationship : Your relationship seems generally healthy and respectful. Few signs of toxicity detected.
• Moderate warning signs : Some concerning behaviors are present in your relationship. They deserve serious attention.
• Problematic relationship : Your relationship shows many signs of toxicity that significantly impact your well-being.
• Dangerous relationship : Your relationship shows serious characteristics of toxicity and potentially psychological violence.

What your full report includes

Beyond your initial result, the detailed PDF report includes:

• Introduction : This report analyzes the relational dynamics you described across six key dimensions of toxicity. The results aim to help you become aware of your situation.
• Global Score : Your global score reflects the perceived level of toxicity in your relationship. The higher the score, the more frequent and intense the problematic behaviors are.
• Dimension Analysis : Each dimension explores a specific aspect of relational toxicity. The detailed analysis below helps you precisely identify the harmful dynamics present in your relationship.
• Recommendations : The following recommendations are tailored to your situation. If your score is high, it is essential to take steps to protect your well-being.
• Resources : Useful resources: in immediate danger, contact your local emergency services; to talk to someone, find a helpline in your country at findahelpline.com or contact Befrienders Worldwide (befrienders.org). Recommended reading: 'Why Does He Do That?' by Lundy Bancroft, 'The Verbally Abusive Relationship' by Patricia Evans.

The full personalised report (your precise score, your profile per dimension, your recommendations) is paid.

When to take this test

• You recognise yourself in toxic relationship, manipulation, psychological violence and want to see more clearly.
• You want a structured reading rather than a vague impression.
• You are looking for an objective starting point before talking to a professional if needed.

Take the Toxic Relationship Detection Test → — 63 questions, anonymous, PDF report.

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FAQ

How long does the test take?

63 questions, about 10 min.

Does the test provide a diagnosis?

No. It measures an intensity and gives you reference points; only a professional can make a diagnosis.

Are my answers confidential?

Yes: the test is 100% anonymous and the report is delivered directly to you.

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